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What caused you to want to come home?
| Wed, 07-07-2004 - 12:08pm |
Hello, everyone,
I am only almost 2 months pregnant, and I'm just wondering about what caused many of you to come home and raise your children. I've been blessed with a really good job. I make a nice salary. Life would be totally different for me if I decided to stay at home and raise my baby and just live off my husband's salary. How rewarding is staying home and raising your child as opposed to sending your baby to day care? Do you enjoy it? Do you regret giving up your careers? Any ideas??
Thanks for your feedback!
Lady J

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If you decide to stay home make sure you get involved in a playgroup or mommy & me...anything that gets you out of the house meeting other moms THAT STAY HOME TOO! You do need the support of your dh but having friends that support is equally important IMHO.
I do have friends that work, I'm not against working moms. It's just not the right thing for me & my family.
Sam (SAHM of 3)
Lady J
Welcome to the board!
I was very busy yesterday so I did not see your post till now but wanted to respond.
I really loved being a preschool Teacher but decided after ods to quite and stay home. When my yds was 4 months old I went back to work, until he was 1 1/2. I could not help but notice the difference between my two sons. I had a great job that even allowed me to breastfeed twice a day and keep my baby with me two hours a day during the childrens rest time.
It was the perfect situation until I started noticing little things about yds. He was very whiny at home and always wanted my constant attention when we walked in the door. He acted very anxious and seemed to always think I was going somewhere. He was very impatient and very clingy.
I observed him one day in his preschool classroom, and saw he was very happy in there and seemed very well adjusted. But homelife was become more and more strained.
With my oldest, he was very secure in the knowedge that his mommy could and would pick him up at any time of the day. There was no confusing moments of waking up somewhere that was not his home and that momentary thought of "where am I".
I truly beleive that the problems I have with my 2 1/2 year old come from his early life in daycare. Now don't get me wrong, the women who had him were wonderful. It was a very small class of 6 kids and TWO workers. But they were not his mommy.
As a preschool Teacher it would break my heart to hear the children in my class asking for their parents. Even with the older children, no matter how nice I was or how busy I kept them, there were the constant..."When is mommy picking me up"? When am I going home"?/
I really beleive I made the best decision for my family. It is just my honest opinon that If at all possible at least one parent wether it is dad or mom should have the most contact with children instead of someone else.
Beacause of these beleifs even though I have a daycare liscense I will not care for children full time in my home. I do teach preschool out of my home now during the school year from 9:00 to 12:30. I do not want to ever again see a child who is crying because Mom and dad are away for so long.
But I also see kids who has mommy or daddy work part time and they seem to take it rather well.
As for income, my husband is a supevisor with a factory job. We are a middle class family and seem to do just fine. We run our household as if it is a small business. We keep budjets and monitor where all the money goes. We try to pay for things only with cash, and save up for big items. We are fortunate though that he receives quarterly bonuses which really help with our savings account. I clip coupons and look at all of the grocery adds and always make a list before shopping.
We will be adding more kids to our family due to a family situation so we are preparing to buckle down even more. We are determined though to keep things as they are for our family's sake.
As for my yds, we notice a big difference in him now. Now that he is secure that I am not going anywhere he is getting better at home. We still have hard moments with him, but we adore him and love him and will do what it takes to help him feel secure again.
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Good luck in your decision!!!
Carson - sahm of six
I would have to say what made up our minds was after we figured just how much money I would be bringing home if I had stayed working and having daycare. We have three kids so my job would have only been to cover daycare for my three. So why not just stay home and care of them myself and raise them instead of letting someone else do it for me and pay them.
That was one of our reasons why and another was I wanted to be a stay at home mom and I love being here, alot less stress then trying to keep up with working, housework, being a wife and mommy...
Heather
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