What do you think?

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Registered: 08-05-2004
What do you think?
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Mon, 09-20-2004 - 8:38pm
My husband and I moved to our home the first of the year. We are in a great neighborhood with a lot of very friendly neighbors. In the summertime everyone is out. Except one of my next door neighbors. They have two daughters that love to play with my daughter. Early spring we invited them to my daughter's b-day party, they came and had fun. Mid-summer my daughter did not get invited to their daughter b-day party. At first I didn't care because I thought they were having it at their grandmother's. But when we came home from another's b-day party that day, my husband and I had to close the blinds to our house so that my daughter wouldn't see the birthday party in their backyard. ? Then the neighbor's daughter bought my daughter a goodie bag.? My husband and I did not care for that and thought is was I little strange.

I have the neighbor's girls always wanting to come over to the house to play with my daughter. I love it! They are more than welcome to come over. My daughter has only been invited into their home once. ? She can play in their backyard. The mother is a new SAHM but I never see her during the day. It is almost as if she tries to avoid me. Today I went to my mailbox as she did, of course I didn't know she was. So I made small talk...(SAHM talk...) "How's your day going?" She relies, "Why?" I said, "Just wondering if you were having a good day." (just making talk) She said, "Oh, I thought you heard us. (YD) is having a bad day." and walks away. Ok, I have had those days But be nice. I am getting to were I don't like her. I don't want to not like a NEIGHBOR. What do you think? My mom use to tell me to kill them with kindness....I am good at that.

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Registered: 05-08-2004
Tue, 09-21-2004 - 9:19am

Wow! What a rude neighbor! You know though, there may be something going on in her household that is causing her to act this way. I hope not though.


I would continue to let her kids come over, unless she does something that is unpardonable. Hopefully in spite of thier mother these kids can be friends.


Good luck!

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Registered: 03-27-2003
Tue, 09-21-2004 - 9:38am
I would be concerned with that response. Seems like she's trying to hide something. If you heard whatever it was that was going on it must have been one heck of a something! Maybe just show her that you're her friend and her children can come to play at your house but I would be a little leary of letting my child go to a neighbor's house that seemed to be trying to hide something.

Keep that kindness flowing though - she may need it.

Sherrie =}