What do you think?

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What do you think?
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Thu, 04-13-2006 - 8:21am
I want to ask you guys something, although I know some will disagree. I've been thinking about this for awhile and I think this will be very beneficial for me. I'm thinking about having a babysitter come to the house once a week for about 4 hours or bringing the boys to a daycare once a week for 4 hours. I really need a break, I take NO time for myself, and this is the only way. Every night my dh works until 7 pm, and by then Im getting the boys ready for bed, so I hate to rush out to the gym or grocery store then. His job is extremely demanding and I find myself bugging him to come home earlier when he just can't.
Don't get me wrong, I love staying home with my kids, but I hate carting them everywhere with me to run errands. Its hard enough to go the grocery store because they dont even fit in the buggy with the groceries. I just want some input. My dh agrees with me, he says I need to take time for myself. Let me know what you think.
Kate

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Thu, 04-13-2006 - 8:30am

I agree with your dh. And it sounds like it's not so much about taking time for yourself as it is getting stuff done. I'm fortunate to have my ILs, retired and living relatively close by, at my disposal. I don't think there's anything wrong with getting a sitter once a week.

Erin

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Thu, 04-13-2006 - 9:17am
Although I hate daycares for under three year olds, four hours is not a long time and Vinnie would probably just sleep right through it. If it were me I think I might prefere a daycare where there are coworkers to hold eachother accountable. Dom would probably love the extra playtime with his preschool friends :)
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Thu, 04-13-2006 - 9:22am
I think you need the time for yourself to get things done or just for the quiet time.One day is no big deal.

 

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Thu, 04-13-2006 - 9:29am

Kate, your job is just as demanding as your dh's. Therefore, you also deserve a break. I'm sure when he gets home at night, he just wants to unwind, spend some time with the kids, and then the 2 of you need time together. That doesn't allow any time for you to be "Kate". I say, go for it. If he agrees with you, then you should do it. We all need sanity breaks now and then. I spend my afternoons, after I get home from recess duty, eating my lunch in peace and quiet, reading a book or watching a little t.v. That is the time I take for myself (aside from being on the 'puter! LOL!). The rest of the time is spent getting kids off to school, making beds, doing laundry, starting dinner, cleaning, etc. So, taking a 5'er for yourself is a great plan!! Do not let yourself feel guilty!! Good luck, hon.

Wendy

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Thu, 04-13-2006 - 9:42am

Go for it!! There is absolutely nothing wrong with that. We *all* need a little time to ourselves. You will be a better Mommy having had that little break. I'm tempted to do the same thing with my girls sometimes. I haven't done it yet, but there are days when I consider it. I think I haven't, just because they still nap in the afternoons & that preserves my sanity.

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Thu, 04-13-2006 - 9:49am
I think it's a great idea Kate... and 4 hours once a week is no big deal at all. I would LOVE to have 4 hours to myself to get things done LOL.



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Thu, 04-13-2006 - 9:55am
I think it is a great idea and have been pondering it myself. I also do not have family here who can help me and my DH pulls long hours too. I know just how you feel in needing just a few hours a week for yourself.

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Thu, 04-13-2006 - 10:01am

Kate,


There is nothing wrong with taking time for yourself.

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Thu, 04-13-2006 - 4:17pm

Have you considered looking in to a preschool or a Mother's Morning Out program? It would give you the break that you need and also would provide a change of scenery for your kids (and some new friends as well). It's usually cheaper by the hour than a sitter. The one that my kids have attended is $70/month for 1 day a week (4 hours), so it's less than $5 an hour. You can go two days if you want. And they are usually tailored for moms just like you who just need a break rather than full-time daycare. Well-run programs can be very beneficial to moms and kids! Good luck!

Paige