What do your husbands do to help?
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What do your husbands do to help?
| Mon, 05-07-2007 - 9:27am |
According to my H, he does more with his children than other men. I thought I'd put his theory to the test and also give everyone a chance to brag (or rant) about their DHs.
Renee

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My dh helps on and off...when he's in the mood to help. His family (as I'm noticing, since we now live with them) was just four people sharing a house, but not at all a family. They didn't clean or even cook (just boxed mixes and stuff), and they never helped each other or talked to each other. They actually take great pains to avoid each other. (It's weird. I hate it! We met and married while we were in the military, stationed in Germany. I didn't know his fam before we got married. If I had - I would have gone screaming in the other direction!! I said that to dh lately, and he just nodded. He understands, and he doesn't like it any more than I do.) Anyway... They didn't teach him even one single thing about having a family or actually caring for a house. (I even had to teach him
(((((Kat)))))
Hang in there! I know that it is extremely tough with 2 little ones. Keep your spirits up though. If you feel good, things ARE good.
Renee
DH & I don't have anything that we each do in particular to help out at home & with DD, mostly, if I ask him to help or do something, he does it.
DH has surprised me in the daddy-department, since he is NOT the kind of guy anyone would have said was a "baby person"...but our start was pretty darn rough.
My dh does more that any of his brothers combined! But he still does a lot less than I think he should. He does help out at family functions, and there is a lot of them. But that was only by force. The men usually hang out and tell us that we need to keep the kids quiet. But last Mother's Day, I just let the kids do whatever. I told him that it was my day and that he was the one that needed to watch the kids and help do all the dishes (there were 27 people, 12 were kids). His mom told me that I was wrong to expetct him to do "women's work". I just about lost it! I worked at night, just as many hours as he did during the week, except I delivered newspapers and I did not have a night off in almost a year! He finally got it when he did not have one shread of clean clothing!
Then around Thanksgiving last year, I was admitted to the hospital because I had a mini-stroke. He seriously steped up after that. I think it was because he had to do everything for a week or so. He had to take care of the kids, do my routes, cook, clean, and do my duties at Thanksgiving at his parents house. Or maybe it was because I could not remember him and the doctors just about slapped him when my mom and SIL told them what all I had been doing. One doc told him it was no suprise I had ended up there and should be thankful that I didn't divorce him! lol. But anyway, he is getting better. He took Abbie fishing yesterday and they caught about 25 fish. She had a blast and is begging to go again. And as far as Mother's Day...I get to do whatever I want and I don't have to go to his mom's house!!!! That's better than last year...when he went fishing! LOL
Tara
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