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Fri, 08-04-2006 - 4:39pm
Now, we have had a gas leak in our hosue and 3 valves need replaced. My wonderful husband decided to bring his "girlfriend" on a weekend get away and leave me with the kids, and no money to fix this! He took all the money and I am about out of money and I have no gas in our house. I cannot do laundry, cook, or give the kids baths. What is he thinking? Seriously, my husband is NOT like this, he has never been this irresponsible! This girl must be more important than his kids, and that is just not right. I also have to pay my court cost, I got a letter today they will suspend my license if I dont pay it. Well, I have no money, he has $5,000 and I have nothing :( I tried calling the courthouse, but no answer. I mean, they will just suspend my license? I feel like Im in a bad dream, I know I have to be strong, but Im feeling pretty weak right now. I feel like he has taken everything away from me and Im feeling very powerless. I know he has no right to leave me without money, but he doesn't care. I cannot file for divorce until Monday or Tuesday, plus he took all the W2's, and bank statements, etc..I dont even know how much $$ he made last year because he takes care of all this! Im going to cry now, im realy upset.

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Registered: 03-26-2003
Fri, 08-04-2006 - 4:51pm

Oh man, Kate - how thoughtless, rude and inconsiderate of him, not to mention SELFISH!! How angry you must be, and you have every right to feel that way. I can't imagine trying to be strong in front of your kids - after all, none of it is their fault. I commend you on how brave and strong you are. I'm praying for you, hon. Is there a family member you can call? It doesn't sound safe to me, that you are staying there. Otherwise, use a credit card and go to a hotel, with a restaurant and pool, and you and the kids live it up for the weekend - after all, he left you with no choice!!

Huge hugs,
Wendy

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Fri, 08-04-2006 - 5:00pm

what an IDIOT!!! do you have any family that can help you out? don't he realize that your kids have to eat and bathe,not spend the weekend in a fancy hotel, i'm telling you thinking with the wrong head gets you in trouble, i just want to strangle him for you an di don't even know him, i don't know how you stay so calm! well try to go to a friends house to get the kids something to eat and come home to put the kids to sleep. then call him and tell him that you can't believe he left you in such a horrible perdicament, but if you can't talk civilly just wait till monday when your calm...

P&PT coming your way..

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Registered: 03-26-2003
Fri, 08-04-2006 - 5:07pm

((((KATE!!)))) First of all, is the gas leak dangerous? That sounds truly bad to me. Not something you want to F with.

Secondly, do you have a lawyer? You need to call a lawyer. He is screwing you. If this is any indication of how his behavior is going to be through the divorce, you *definitely* need legal counsel!

Thirdly, do you have family around? Sisters? Brothers? Parents? Anyone? Can you appeal to *his* family and explain the situation?

Did he remove the money from your bank accounts? Use a credit card if you have one. Do whatever it takes. He'll be responsible for half the credit card bill in the long run anyway.

What has come over him? He must be totally smitten by this other woman! I just cannot fathom a man acting this way towards his family. I mean--I know it happens but I just can't even wrap my mind around it! And this woman!! Who in the F is she?? How can you do this with a married man with kids? Have you ever spoken to her?

Oh my gosh, Kate. You are sooooooo in my prayers!! I am so so sorry. I am feeling so bad for you right now. You need someone there to support you. Call a friend. Do something. I wish I were there to help you, I really do. I just wish I could give you a big hug.

Hang in there, sweetie! And please don't be a stranger!! I am here for you whenever you want.

Sofia




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Fri, 08-04-2006 - 5:17pm
It sounds like you are on your own.
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Fri, 08-04-2006 - 5:42pm

Kate I am so pissed off on your behalf! I am so sorry I have not been able to be here for you. I have t-moble service if you have that you can call me for free if you just need to talk. I think you have my email address?


Unfortunately I have seen this time and again...man gets new woman and forgets about wife and even the kids. A HOLES!!!


Do you think your church would help with sending someone over to help fix the leaks? Do you have any family near by?


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Registered: 10-11-2005
Fri, 08-04-2006 - 5:48pm

Kate,


I'm curious, what court costs are you referring to?

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Fri, 08-04-2006 - 5:50pm

Kate,

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Sat, 08-05-2006 - 12:24am

Kate if it were me, I'd be changing the locks on the doors and throwing his crap out on the lawn. As if you didn't already feel hurt from the betrayal, he pulls crap like this and shows that he doesn't even care about his kids... what an #$$%@%*!!!!!

Just pray Kate... God sees your pain, and He can help you through this... regardless of the circumstances.


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Sat, 08-05-2006 - 2:54am

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Sat, 08-05-2006 - 9:17am
((((hugs)))))

You are right, he cannot do that to you.
Call his work and get a copy of his W-2 if they will do it and then call the bank for info on your account, statements and so on.
I wish you luck getting some money and your things fixed.

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