What would you do?
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| Mon, 08-28-2006 - 5:58pm |
Ok: Tim got in a car accident today, and even though it wasn't his fault, he might lose his job over it. (long story...short version is that his supervisor has had it in for him ever since we had the baby because him and his wife have been trying and can't.)
So...I guess I have two choices:
1. apply for welfare for a short time until he finds a job and can pay child support/alimony
2. go find a job and put Dylan in day care
Now, I served 6 years in the Navy, so I feel that I have earned my right to use public assistance, and I have taken full advantage of programs like WIC and Medicaid. But the thought of just saying the word, WELFARE...it comes screaming at me with all the stigmas attached.
On the flip side...I would only be on it for a short time, I think? And, I would still get to be with Dylan.
On the other hand...what if he decides to totally flake out (not him but this might be his last straw...us breaking up after having the baby we worked for five years to have, then losing his job) and doesn't get a new job fast enough?
Should I just bite the bullet and job hunt now?
What would you do?




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Oh Melanie that's just awful! What a lose lose situation. Hope your DH is okay and doesn't end up losing his job over this.
I don't know if it'll help, because what I would do might totally not be an option for you. But, if I found myself in your shoes, I would go home to my parents house. For the time that it was necessary, I would go stay with them. That way, I could get a job working while the kids were asleep. I could be with them during the day and work late so they didn't have to go to daycare.
Just a suggestion, and it totally might not be doable, but if it came to it, would Tim be agreeable to coming over in the late afternoon/evening when Dylan goes to bed so that you could work an evening shift at a job? Places like Barnes and Noble and Walmart are open late enough that if he came over at 5 or 6 you could work a good chunk of hours. Then it's at least sort of getting a possitive spin. You still get to stay home during the day, Dylan doesn't have to go to daycare, and Tim gets to spend extra time with Dylan. That's what I'd try first, then my parents.
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