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What would you do?
| Sun, 07-25-2004 - 3:51pm |
Those of you who have read any of my posts have noticed that my realtionship with MIL could be better. Well,I have came to yet another road block. Dh and I are expecting our second baby in September. I'm having a scheduled c-section on Sept. 2nd. Anyway I had to have an emergency c-section with DS and MIL cooked our supper for the week after I came home,which at the time I thought was really swell of her. But since then she has not let me forget it. For 3 years she has repeated that she "cooked for us for a week." And might I add that was all she ever did. Every chance she gets she reminds us that she took care of our supper for us that week after I came home from the hospital. So a few days ago she said she was going to cook our suppers again like last time. I rather she didn't I had just as well do it myself. I don't care how sore I am I would rather be in pain and do it myself than to hear her rub it in my face. I told Dh that I didn't want her to do it this time and he said to let her. What should I do? What would you guys do? I really don't want to hear her mouth. She is going to be over here enough bossing me around with the baby. And, BTW, we thanked her over and over when she cooked for us last time...so I will never understand why she just can't let it go. Am I being unreasonable or prideful?
TIA,
Holly




why don't you start making dishes when you get closer to your due date? Make some good carserol's that freeze well. Tell her thank you but I have already taken care of that'',, tell her you made and froze a bunch of dinners and have the instructions on them for your dh,,, that will burn her,,,
can I wonder though,, and I can say this cause it was a rough few years with my MIL until I really got to know her,, but does she really mean well,, and she just grates on your nerves so you can't see that?,, or is she really a pain in the behind?.,, either way Good Luck,,
Good Luck
Christy
This sorda turned in to my own vent. Sorry!! Be kind but be honest. You'll have things under control and would rather just get it done yourself. I don't know, at this point and with my MIL, I'd just tell her I'm all set. Like another poster said, make some meals ahead of time and freeze them so she'll really have nothing to come to do...y'know!! GOOD LUCK TO YOU!!!!
~Tammy
Mom to Synthia (11 years) and Zoe (10 months)
Glad to hear that I'm not the only one who has a "Monster-in-law" although mine would never cook for us (even if we were both ill and still had our daughter here!).
What I did when I had my first daughter was we made a bunch on things (stews, casseroles, lasagna, chili etc.) and froze them. That way we didn't have to have the local Pizza Place on speed-dial and I didn't have to do alot. I didn't have a c-section but it was a suggestion made by the woman who taught our prenatal class. You can freeze them in 1 or 2 servings (3 if you are hungry!) and then just thaw them out as you need them! Worked great for us.
My MIL didn't actually come to see Alexandra until she was a month old (they live in the same town as us) and she hasn't seen her since Easter. On the plus side, my daughter doesn't like her because she doesn't know her so I don't have to act all nice when she's around (although I don't say anything bad in front of my daughter!). My MIL also tells all the family (her side, and we're not close to them at all) about how we never go to visit (the apt. is filled with breakable things and and there is no room to play) and how I won't meet her at the mall for a coffee (sitting in the mall with a 23 month old for 2 hours does not excite me!)
Good luck and if you want any easy to freeze recipies let me know!
~Tammy (who's not fond of the kitchen all it that goes with it)
Mom to Synthia & Zoe
Let her know you do not want to hear about it for thext 10 years and if you will then there is no need to do it.
Be honest about it or you might have another 3 years of nagging about it.
My MIL offered to stay with us for a week after the birth of Kathryn. She said she just wanted to make sure we were okay and that we could bond with the baby. Well, I cooked all the meals, DH did all the dishes and had to actually run errands to the store for her while she was supposedly "helping" us. But I digress, short version of my advice is whatever will cause you less stress, opt for that.
Good luck,
Malin
i totaly agree with these posters........start now....get a bunch of meals made.. remember, spaghetti sauce goes along way, not only for spaghetti, but you can make tons of meals out of it.. like chicken parmegan, and pizza..lasagne...also, if you have schwans service, they have awesome meals... my grandma gets them alot.. get it all ready now.and when she asks. just say......well....... i have a freezer full of stuff i have already made for my family, so when baby comes we are set.but thank you anyway, we would like some peace and quiet after this one......cuz belive me...this one is gonna be different, there wont be much sleeping while baby sleeps when you have another one in the house... good luck..and remember.. this is YOUR family, and YOUR home..... and YOUR choice of how things go.......and honestly.... i think your dh should be the one taking care of you.....not her...........
Good luck!
Lisa