What would you do? SERIOUS problem here!
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| Fri, 12-02-2005 - 3:16pm |
Hi ladies,
I need some desparate help here! We have next-door neighbors that we LOVE and they have a child that will be 3 in March - so about the same age as my middle son.
Well, the problem is that their son is a HUGE bully. He pushes Tyler, takes toys, yells at him, locks him in a dark room until Tyler cries, etc. Well - dh and I kind of solved that (with the parents permission) by giving Tyler permission to hit back, push back, take his toys back - etc. And that's not what bothers me so much. Ty needs to get used to kids like that.
However, today the bullying took a turn for the worst. The neighbors son was over here playing and I had to go to the bathroom and get dressed (I was only in a robe). Wyatt (who's 7 1/2 months old) was on the floor, but I didn't think anything of it - Tyler never bothers the baby. So I go to the bathroom and I come out and I hear a sound like Wyatt is crying but it's muffled - so I wait a second and then I hear a full out WAIL! So I JUMP into my clothes and go RACING out of the room into the living room. What do I find? My neighbor's son SITTING on my baby's face SUFFOCATING him! Wyatt was fighting so hard that he'd cut his own face and drew blood trying to get this kid off of him. I immediately took the kid home and told his parents what was going on. They sent him to his room, apologized profusely and kissed and hugged Wyatt, but I'm scared. I can't keep an eye on the kids 24/7 when they are over here and Wyatt should be comfortable on his own floor in his own house. Also - this isn't the first time this child has done this, he did it to his baby sister (who was 6 weeks old at the time) a few weeks ago. In addition they made the kid stay in his room for a bit but then they took him to McDonald's for lunch and to play since he'd filled up his reward chart. To me that seemed to be saying that it was ok what he did. I don't know that made me feel weird.
Anywho, Tyler LOVES playing with this kid (especially now that he can hit him back - LOL) and we enjoy and get along with the parents but I'm worried about the interaction now. What would you do?
Hugs,
K

yikes!!!! i dont know what I'd do either. One thing for sure is that
I agree with having 2 adults present so if one has to do something quick then the other is there...
To be honest, that boy would not be playing with my child anymore.
I'm so sorry this happened!
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Boy I got mad just reading the post..lol. I was thinking the exact same thing Kyra was. No way would I let my child play with that boy anymore. Well to be honest, I would not have let him play with that boy right from the beginning. I wouldn't want him to be around someone like that. Just imagine the things that Tyler is thinking by seeing this little boys behavior and then knowing that it is ok to hit/push back. Please becareful before Tyler turns into a bully by seeing this kid.
Well (((HUGS))) to you, Tyler and Wyatt!! Good luck with your decision. If you decide that they can still play try to make sure it is only at your house or with both parents there. Don't let Tyler go over there without you.
Olivia
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