What is wrong with this kid?
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What is wrong with this kid?
| Thu, 11-03-2005 - 10:33am |
Ok,
Dom has really been getting to me...First of all, it's a fight just to get him dressed, I usually have to chase him around for like 10 minutes. I know he's only 3, but i have absolutely NO patience for this when we're trying to get ready to leave to go somewhere.
Then this morning he had pictures at school, and I bought him these new brown boots, and they went with his outfit, so I put them on and he FREAKED. It took me like 15 minutes to get them on him, and he was in tears by the time we were leaving for school. Then I can't take this potty-training!! I have been trying sooo hard, but its like he still has accidents because hes too lazy to take them time to go on the potty. So, the other night I kept asking if he had to go, well, he never went and decided to go on the carpet, he peed and pooped in his underwear. I was SOOOOO mad, but didnt want to let him know that, I just told him he can't go on the carpet anymore, its gross. LAst night It got soo bad that I had to shut him in the bathroom and told him he couldnt come out until he tried, well, he did poop, which was like amazing! But, now we're sitting inside waiting for him to go on the potty because hes not going outside until he goes--I know he has to go.
Im at wits end with him :( What is his deal lately??
Dom has really been getting to me...First of all, it's a fight just to get him dressed, I usually have to chase him around for like 10 minutes. I know he's only 3, but i have absolutely NO patience for this when we're trying to get ready to leave to go somewhere.
Then this morning he had pictures at school, and I bought him these new brown boots, and they went with his outfit, so I put them on and he FREAKED. It took me like 15 minutes to get them on him, and he was in tears by the time we were leaving for school. Then I can't take this potty-training!! I have been trying sooo hard, but its like he still has accidents because hes too lazy to take them time to go on the potty. So, the other night I kept asking if he had to go, well, he never went and decided to go on the carpet, he peed and pooped in his underwear. I was SOOOOO mad, but didnt want to let him know that, I just told him he can't go on the carpet anymore, its gross. LAst night It got soo bad that I had to shut him in the bathroom and told him he couldnt come out until he tried, well, he did poop, which was like amazing! But, now we're sitting inside waiting for him to go on the potty because hes not going outside until he goes--I know he has to go.
Im at wits end with him :( What is his deal lately??

You're having a baby sweetie...
kids feel your stress, and they always act out when a new sibling comes (unfortunately). Be as patient as you can right now with him... he probably feels threatened and is not quite sure about everything going on. Let him have some time to get used to the baby before you make any changes to his routine/surroundings, and just cuddle him as much as possible.
hang in there... it'll get better I promise!
(((((((HUGS)))))))
Sorry, I won't be of much help. I'm going through the exact same thing w/my 3 1/2 year old. He's driving me nuts! I'm about to re-start the 1-2-3 Magic or Supernanny approach or something. Something has to change before I run away from home. .LOL..
Last night he was in the bath and I started to walk out of the bathroom to get a towel and he actually told me(in his best mean voice "come here... NOW".. UM, I don't think so!!!!!!!!!!!
I figured out long ago that it doesn't matter if his shoes match his outfit, as long as he'll wear them. He gets his choice of wearing Spiderman, Buzz Lightyear or Lion King tennis shoes every day. If he won't choose, I'll choose for him. Usually as soon as I do, he decides which ones he wants to wear.
The past 2 days he's been having potty accidents. Mostly, I think, b/c he gets busy playing and doesn't want to stop to go to the bathroom. He's been pretty much daytime potty trained for about a month now. But y'day, for example, he sat at the computer and said "I wanna potty"(which meant that he had to go), but instead of going, he just sat there. I had to turn the moniter off so that he would go and not wet his pants again.
At this age, pretty much anything is a choice. He has the choice to do what I say, or get in trouble. He can choose what underwear he wears, what shoes he wears, etc. I give him choices about just about everything(some are not negotiable though). He's also very independent and wants to do *everything* by himself. To the point of a major meltdown if we don't let him do it (I let him, dh hasn't realized the importance of it yet).
Anyway, I could go on, but this is supposed to be about you, not me. :) Sorry.. Again, I'm no help, just want to offer hugs and say that you're not alone in this...
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Once again, sending you hugs. I understand - potty training is the absolute pits!! Katie was trained during the day when Molly was born, but was still wearing pull-ups at night. Right after Molly came home from the hospital, I noticed that Katie stayed dry all night. I stupidly thought that meant that she was ready to go all night. DUH - I was functioning on zero sleep, and nursing a baby all night. Why on earth did I think I could add sheet changing to the list? So, needless to say, I took her out of Pull-ups and put her in underpants for bed. BAD idea. DH warned me not to, but of course, I knew better. That very night, she wet the bed. Sigh - I guess I was over eager and so ready to only have to deal with 1 in diapers. Oh well. I guess what I'm trying to say is - don't sweat the small stuff, hon. Forcing him to go won't help either. Just nonchalantly tell him, we're going potty now. Mommy will be in the kitchen waiting for you. When you are done, you may come out and we will go play. Remember, choose your battles. I find that if I try to force one of the girls to do something, it just makes it worse. I tried to force Katie to drink her milk once and I ended up in tears. She just sat and stared at me (I think she was ~18 mos. old). My sister just laughed at me. I took her advice and pretended it didn't bother me and soon enough, she drank it. I guess you are sick of me rambling. Just wanted you to know, you are not alone.
Hugs,
Wendy
I have to agree with Desiree that he knows, "a change is a comin." I would just be patient with him if you can.
Big (Hugs)!
Traci