what is wrong with my husband?

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Registered: 06-11-2007
what is wrong with my husband?
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Mon, 06-11-2007 - 10:37pm
Ladies please help!!! My husband is such a jerk lately. He honestly feels that since I stay at home there should be nothing left to do when he gets home from work. He feels he should never help put away laundry, clean up after dinner, pick up his underwear off the floor- nothing!!!! Literally the only thing he EVER does is mow the lawn. He travels out of town every other week for the entire week. He actually says that since he makes all the money I should take care of everything else. I balance the checkbook, handle all mail, do all shopping, take care of my beautiful 2 year old son all alone. He is in Canada on a company paid fishing trip right now and he hasn't even called since Friday to check in- (he's at a resort, not in the wilderness). Did I mention I also am self-employeed and work from home. I just make so much less than he does that doesn't matter to him. He doesn't even appreciate the fact that my paycheck has bailed us out plenty of times. Please help! Will this only keep getting worse? How do I gain my self-respect back. He does seem to love his son, but he is an absentee father... Should I hang in there?
Also- I have to actually beg him to change a lightbulb I can't reach or do any household repairs. He won't even call his siblings on their birthday without me having to physically hand him the phone and make him do it. Is he dead inside or what??????

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Registered: 06-11-2007
Fri, 06-22-2007 - 9:00pm
Thank you so much for your message. We had a great week together so things seem to be stable for now. I really do appreciate you writing me back. We have a lot of issues to work thru so, I guess we'll just have to keeping trying to work things out and communicate better. I wish you the best with your hubby and the new baby.
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Registered: 03-27-2003
Sun, 06-24-2007 - 4:02pm
He sounds typical to me, and he thinks since you do stay at home, you should be able to do everything. I literally do everything around here, i take care of 3 kids, I clean my house, mopw the lawn, clean up the lawn, pay the bills, do all the laundry, cook meals, take my kids where they need to go, and I do some maintenance around the house, I unclog toilets, change light bulbs, clear out the drains in the bathtub, fix our washing machine we need be, whatever needs to be done. the only advice I can give you is, don't pick up after him, let him take his plate to the sink, make him pick up his own laundry, and make him clean up after himself, it may not be much, but it's still something. Right now my husband provides for this family, he works from 12-8-9:30pm at night, with computers. So i have tons of respect for him, I don't know how I am going to get things done when i start my part time job. In which my husband is helpig me by watching the kids in the morning before work. Good Luck.

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