WHEN DID KIDS GET SO MEAN????????????
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WHEN DID KIDS GET SO MEAN????????????
| Tue, 03-02-2004 - 8:41am |
WELL YESTURDAY WAS NICE OUT,SO MY SON & I PACKED UP HIS TOYS &STUFF &HEADED TO THE PARK.AFTER PLAYING FOR A WHILE SOME KIDS CAME 2 BOYS & A GIRL (BOYS AROUND 4-7 GIRL 12)WELL THEY STARTED TOSSING A BALL TO EACH OTHER,WELL DOMENIC COMES RUNNING OVER SAYING I WANNA PLAY THROW IT TO ME,THET IGNORE HIM ,SO AGAIN HE SAYS PLEASE I WANNA PLAY THROW IT TO ME PLEASE.THEY LOOKED AT HIM & YELLED NO YOU CAN NOT PLAY. I WAS SHOCKED ,AMAZED AT HOW RUDE THAT WAS.MY SON WILL BE 3 IN MAY ,ALL HE WANTED WAS TO PLAY BALL WITH THESE KIDS. WELL I SAID COME ON DOMENIC I'LL PLAY WITH YOU ,NO MOMMY I WANNA PLAY WITH THEM ,I SAID SORRY HONEY THEY DO'NT WANNA PLAY WITH YOU HE ASKED ME WHY > I FELT SO BAD FOR HIM.WELL WE STARTED PLAYING & ANOTHER LITTLE GIRL (NAMED JENNIFER )CAME OVER & WAS JUST WATCHING US DOMENIC SAID DO YOU WANNA PLAY WITH ME!WELL SHE DID SO THE 3 OF US TOSSING THE BALL TO EACH OTHER WHEN ALL OF A SUDDEN THOSE KIDS (THE ONES THAT TOLD HIM HE COULD NOT PLAY)CAME OVER WITHOUT ASKING JUST DECIDED TO JOIN OUR GAME.... WRONG... I STOPPED THE GAME & SAID LETS GO PLAY ON THE SWINGS I'LL PUSH YOU GUYS(DOMENIC & JENNIFER).I KNOW THAT WAS MEAN BUT I WAS STILL ALITTLE MAD . WHEN DID KIDS BECOME SO MEAN????????/

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I still think that it is wrong to teach your child that those kids were being "mean" to him (unless, of course, they were yelling). But they are within their rights for not letting him play. Why is it that we expect more from children than we expect from adults? I mean, if I saw a group of adults sitting in the park eating lunch, I would not presume that I could go sit with them and eat their lunch. I would not think that they were being "mean" if I asked and they said no... I would just realize that they are entitled to a nice lunch with friends.
Also, your child could have gotten hurt playing with the big kids. He doesn't have the skills and why should they play down to his level?
It's nice to share and teach children to share, but I don't think that everything in this would is community property. I mean, I don't "share" my neighbor's house or bedroom or car. lol.
Thanks,
Melissa
I'm wondering if you actually explained to the older kids why you were not allowing them to play with your son later on.
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Rhonda
I don't think that anyone is "ganging up" on Dominic's mom simply by disagreeing.... but then, disagreeing with someone may hurt their feelings and I guess that hurt feelings should be prevented at all costs!
I am "mean" to my daughter everyday. I am "mean" when I tell her "no, you can't play with the knobs on the stove" or "no, you can't touch the wall sockets" I suppose being told "no" hurts her feelings, but oh well! Sometimes you can't do the things you want. End of story. Sometimes people are rude and mean. That's not going to change. All you can change is your reaction to rudeness and meanness. You can only control yourself. Isn't that the lesson here?
Thanks for the spirited discussion,
Melissa
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