WHEN DID KIDS GET SO MEAN????????????
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WHEN DID KIDS GET SO MEAN????????????
| Tue, 03-02-2004 - 8:41am |
WELL YESTURDAY WAS NICE OUT,SO MY SON & I PACKED UP HIS TOYS &STUFF &HEADED TO THE PARK.AFTER PLAYING FOR A WHILE SOME KIDS CAME 2 BOYS & A GIRL (BOYS AROUND 4-7 GIRL 12)WELL THEY STARTED TOSSING A BALL TO EACH OTHER,WELL DOMENIC COMES RUNNING OVER SAYING I WANNA PLAY THROW IT TO ME,THET IGNORE HIM ,SO AGAIN HE SAYS PLEASE I WANNA PLAY THROW IT TO ME PLEASE.THEY LOOKED AT HIM & YELLED NO YOU CAN NOT PLAY. I WAS SHOCKED ,AMAZED AT HOW RUDE THAT WAS.MY SON WILL BE 3 IN MAY ,ALL HE WANTED WAS TO PLAY BALL WITH THESE KIDS. WELL I SAID COME ON DOMENIC I'LL PLAY WITH YOU ,NO MOMMY I WANNA PLAY WITH THEM ,I SAID SORRY HONEY THEY DO'NT WANNA PLAY WITH YOU HE ASKED ME WHY > I FELT SO BAD FOR HIM.WELL WE STARTED PLAYING & ANOTHER LITTLE GIRL (NAMED JENNIFER )CAME OVER & WAS JUST WATCHING US DOMENIC SAID DO YOU WANNA PLAY WITH ME!WELL SHE DID SO THE 3 OF US TOSSING THE BALL TO EACH OTHER WHEN ALL OF A SUDDEN THOSE KIDS (THE ONES THAT TOLD HIM HE COULD NOT PLAY)CAME OVER WITHOUT ASKING JUST DECIDED TO JOIN OUR GAME.... WRONG... I STOPPED THE GAME & SAID LETS GO PLAY ON THE SWINGS I'LL PUSH YOU GUYS(DOMENIC & JENNIFER).I KNOW THAT WAS MEAN BUT I WAS STILL ALITTLE MAD . WHEN DID KIDS BECOME SO MEAN????????/

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And I am sure, Shelley, that even with your DD's situation, you haven't come across that maybe people (children included) that were mean enough to merit getting their throats ripped out. LOL. See, I think that what is being perceived as "mean" is just the result of children asserting themselves. We (esp. as women) are taught to just roll over and let everyone get everything they ask or try to demand from us, no questions asked. What woman doesn't tell a friend "no" to a favor and then stress about it for days? Worrying about being mean and hurting feelings?
I know that my daughter is going to come across plenty of different people: nice or rude, light or dark, boy or girl. She needs to know how to be good to everyone and how to deal with the bad apples.
Thanks,
Melissa
I agree that the park is a great place to meet people...if they are open to meeting you!
When I say no to my daughter (with the outlets, etc) of course it is for her safety. But she is 11 months old. She doesn't get why I am telling her no, she just gets upset. She doesn't understand that it is for safety. Like your son couldn't understand why the big kids didn't want to play with him. Maybe you are projecting your own fears onto your son (like the kids in the park are rejecting him just because of his handicap and not because of his age). In the future, I suggest that you can explain it to him by saying, "Oh, they are playing a big-kids game. You can play with them when you are older."
I know that this discussion has gotten rather in-depth and that's good, I think. I still stand by my original point that kids don't have to play with anyone they don't know if they don't want to (and the parents aren't around to make them, ha ha).
Thanks,
Melissa
I honestly don't know how I would have dealt with the situation (probably depending on what kind of day I was having! LOL), but I always try not to assume anything when it comes to other children's behavior or parenting. Even children who have "perfect" parents, have an off day. Until all of my children are completely raised and out of the house, I won't be caught dead thinking/saying the thoughs "my kids NEVER..." or "my kids ALWAYS..." It almost always comes back to bite you in the butt! And I have the feeling with the three different personality types that I am raising, we will most likely cover every problem area eventually, so I probably won't even be able to say it then either (except with the wonderful gift of "selective memory! LOL)! LOL
Angie
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