When do I tel son we will be going away?

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When do I tel son we will be going away?
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Sat, 11-20-2004 - 9:05pm

My husband just got a business trip to Vegas. YAY! So we piggybacked a vacation onto his trip. He gets free airfare and hotel for 3 days, and I get to sleep in those days!

The only problem is that his mom can't get here to watch our son for two days. So, my son will be spending the first 2 nights at a friends house and the rest of the time my MIL will pick him up and he will stay at our home (with MIL).

The question is when do I tell him? While I don't want to spring it on him last minute, I don't know when the good time is! We will be leaving in 2 weeks.

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Sat, 11-20-2004 - 11:07pm
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It might be better to tell him a few days before you leave because kids don't have a concept of time. If you tell him too soon, he might be asking you ALL the time and drive you crazy. That's just my opinion :)
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Sat, 11-20-2004 - 11:16pm

I am in NO way trying to discourage you from going..it sounds fun by the way. But since he is so little it might be a good idea to give him a lot of preparation. Even take him to the friends house and have your friend show him where he is going to sleep and what to do if he wakes up in the middle of the night. Where the bathroom is and maybe the day before have him go over and put his toothbrush and clothes there.


Before leaving you might also give him things like a bandanna with your perfume on it. He could keep this in his pocket for comfort. Also a mini album with a picture of you and dh and maybe some things at home.


You might have your friend be prepared as well. Because of his age he could become weepy for no apparent reason. Things like naps and meals could trigger memory's of home and cause homesickness.


You also said you MIL would also be coming to get him so I would make sure to call him the day that happens just to let him know again in your own words what is going on. For a little guy that could be a lot of transitioning to make.


Good luck, and have fun on your trip!








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Sun, 11-21-2004 - 2:38pm
I think that you should tell him a little bit before he goes, maybe a week or so in advance.
It might be better for him to know ahead of time and get use to the idea of you leaving. He might have questions and there might be some things you can say and plan in the next week or so to make it easy for him.
Good luck and have fun on your trip :)


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Sun, 11-21-2004 - 2:48pm

Well, I broached the subject with my son today (thanks to you urging me to) and he was a little wary but not too much. He has spent the night at this particular friends house before and he was fine. He has also gone with Grandma for a week at a time a few times. One time earlier in the year she took him on vacation to visit relatives!

I will keep talking about it little by little. Wish me luck!

BTW, whenever his is away from us he never even asks for us! He doesn't want to talk on the phone or anything. I don't know if I should be proud of him because he is a trooper or upset that he doesn't need me!

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Mon, 11-22-2004 - 11:12am
Every summer, my husband and I go on a big company trip that last about 2 weeks.