Who am I?

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Registered: 03-13-2009
Who am I?
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Tue, 05-24-2011 - 2:04pm

I am a 23 year old stay at home mommy of two girls; 4 and 1. I just graduated college after working VERY hard on my Child Development degree. Everything I learned has gone out the window when it comes to parenting my girls. I yell

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Wed, 05-25-2011 - 11:19am

I know its something you want to change, but try not to be so hard on yourself either.

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Registered: 10-15-2001
Wed, 05-25-2011 - 2:38pm

Kids are frustraiting.

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Registered: 03-31-2003
Sat, 05-28-2011 - 11:49pm
I like what a PP said about looking for things that might be triggering the yelling. If you do find a pattern, you'll have a starting place for changing things. I know dealing with kids is hard. I only have a 6 mo but was a teacher for almost 5 years, so I know it's easy to fall into yelling to get their attention. Keep in mind that to change the dynamics of your family, it is going to take time and you can forgive yourself if you have a harder time some days. You aren't perfect and neither are your kids or your SO. I think a visit to your family dr is a good idea too. The dr may have some insight for you and your kids and may have some other resources for you, like a support group. Just call and say that you'd like an appointment for yourself for a checkup (make sure YOU are healthy-if you aren't, it can make you more irritable) and mention that you would like to discuss some behavioral issues. You might even mention that you'd like a long appt time instead of the quickie time that they usually allow for that way the dr isn't rushed to get out. Good luck and give yourself a little credit! Remind yourself of the things you and your girls are great at!

Manda :)

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Registered: 04-12-2003
Mon, 05-30-2011 - 11:42pm

Hang in there! I'm not a SAHM anymore, but I do have 3 kids and work full-time, which is just as stressful as staying at home. My oldest is 13, my younger are 5 and 3 (19 mo. apart). The last 3 years of my life have been constant chaos. The little ones are incredibly busy. The oldest was the easiest kid ever and still is. When the other two came along I really learned what it was like to be a parent. I ended up yelling a lot. I still do just not anywhere near as much. I had even started spanking for a period of time which I was always against in the past.

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Registered: 03-13-2009
Tue, 05-31-2011 - 1:47am

Thank you all so much for your tips and advice. It was really helpful and made me feel a lot better. I am now figuring out that I am just tired. I tend to stay up late since it is when my girls are sleeping and I take advantage of this "quiet time" by catching up on homework, tv, or organizing things. I know it will take time but I am willing to change. =)

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Registered: 05-28-2011
Tue, 05-31-2011 - 1:07pm

I think I understand.