Why be a SAHM?

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Registered: 10-12-2006
Why be a SAHM?
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Tue, 07-03-2007 - 1:15pm

Hi Ladies!

This is my first time posting here. I am doing a message about motherhood at our church's youth bible camp. I'll be talking with the young girls aged 13-18,I am a SAHM myself and I have tons of reasons why I think it's the best choice for our kids.....but I just wanted to pick your brains and listen to some of your stories and reasons for being a SAHM. Thanks for your time and input!
Dawn
mommy to Jacob/2 and Cassidy/1

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Registered: 05-22-2007
Tue, 07-03-2007 - 1:49pm

I love being a SAHM. I love being the one to make my son's breakfast/lunch/dinner, making my daughter's bottles and snuggling with her when I feed her, taking them to the park, playing catch, etc. I like being the one who does all that, not have someone else do that for me.

I did work full time for about six months after my son turned six months old and it was exhausting. I would get home at seven at night (after picking my son up from daycare), still have to clean the house, cook dinner, give Noah a bath, put him to bed and catch up on everything else. I felt that I didn't have enough quality time to spend when him. I hated having to wake him up in the morning and take him out of the house - especially when it was cold. I just couldn't hack being a working mom. I didn't like having my sitter tell me all of the things that my son did during the day. Even though he didn't cry or seem to mind going to the sitter's at all, I still felt horribly guilty leaving him there.

Now that I have two babies there is no way I could go back to work. All of my money would go straight to the sitter. I might come home with a few hundred bucks a month and to me that is not worth it.

What exactly are you speaking to the kids at yur church about?

Tarra
Mom to Noah/21 months and Makynzie/2 months

Tarra

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Registered: 01-18-2007
Tue, 07-03-2007 - 2:47pm
I love being a SAHM b/c I get to see all my babies' milestones... I wouldn't want to miss that for the world!
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Registered: 04-14-2007
Tue, 07-03-2007 - 9:37pm
I think it's completely inappropriate to tell young girls, 13-18, why they should be SAHMs -- goodness, the 13-year-olds aren't even old enough to date yet. Are you also telling them to find a potential husband now and start dating him so they can marry by 20 and start having kids? And even if you don't explicitly say it, the plain message is, "Don't worry about high school, college, or a career or interests of your own, you should focus on being a wife and mother." Talk about backward-thinking and eroding young women's potential. How can anyone decide to be a SAHM when they're barely out of the little-girl stage and just beginning to learn about themselves as individuals?
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Tue, 07-03-2007 - 10:04pm

I think it is great being a SAHM after you have done other things - meaning, I have a college degree and have had several jobs prior to being a SAHM.




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Wed, 07-04-2007 - 12:47am
I apprieciate your input...although it is rather rude. I am speaking to young girls about the benefits and values of a stay at home mom. I am also speaking to them on what our role is as a woman. I am not at all dicrediting education. I am simply telling them that when the time comes for them to get married and have children to keep in mind how valuble and rewarding it is, to choose to stay at home and raise your own children. I am giving them my testimony as a young SAHM, and scripture that supports the womans role as wife and mother. Society has made it so that women who choose to stay at home are made to feel almost inferior and guilty for doing so. It wasn't that long ago that being a mother was noble profession and I think young women need to be encouraged to be "joyful mother's of children" psalm 113:9 again.
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Wed, 07-04-2007 - 3:28pm

I never planned on being a SAHM and to be honest I do not think it is the right choice for everyone.

 

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Wed, 07-04-2007 - 3:45pm
I actually teach Sunday school, so I'm quite familiar with scripture. If you want to pick out one verse and overemphasize it to promote an agenda, that's your decision, but there are also tons of other verses that talk about the value in being single and not rushing into marriage. My question is not whether one should decide to SAH as a grown woman finished with college with a few years' work experience; it was solely about the dubious wisdom of encouraging teenagers to do that when they're still children themselves. I hope you also emphasize that: (i) God has different plans for different people, (ii) "when the time comes to marry and have children" should not be a priority for them at all now, and (iii) it's completely fine if they never marry, marry but have no children, or have children and work outside the home as well. Also, the whole issue is something that should probably be coming from a parent or trusted family friend, not a speaker at Bible camp. I imagine their parents don't know exactly what you're planning to tell them, so don't be surprised if some of them have the same reaction I do. I would be livid if I sent my child to camp for fellowship, fun, and learning about the Bible and she came home telling me that someone had encouraged her to be a SAHM one day.
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Registered: 10-12-2006
Wed, 07-04-2007 - 4:00pm
Thanks for sharing your story with me!
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Wed, 07-04-2007 - 4:04pm
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Wed, 07-04-2007 - 4:10pm
I actually realize that God has a differant plan for each person, I'm sorry you see this as such a negative thing. I am only trying to educate them on the benefits and values of a stay at home mom...from a BIBLICAL standpoint...I'm not forcing anyone into doing anything and I am certainly not going to discourage them from going to college or working....IF and when the time comes for them to marry and have children I hope they will remember what God says about motherhood....and ignore society.
Also I have way more than one verse to support my "agenda"
Psalms 113:9
Isaiah 66:13
1 Thessalonians 2:7
Deuteronomy 6:5-7
Proverbs 22:6
Titus 2:4-5
Proverbs 31:10-31
This is not any agenda of mine...this is Gods agenda.Not every woman is called to motherhood,however the ones that are have many, many verses to use as their guide in raising their kids.
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