Why be a SAHM?

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Why be a SAHM?
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Tue, 07-03-2007 - 1:15pm

Hi Ladies!

This is my first time posting here. I am doing a message about motherhood at our church's youth bible camp. I'll be talking with the young girls aged 13-18,I am a SAHM myself and I have tons of reasons why I think it's the best choice for our kids.....but I just wanted to pick your brains and listen to some of your stories and reasons for being a SAHM. Thanks for your time and input!
Dawn
mommy to Jacob/2 and Cassidy/1

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Fri, 07-06-2007 - 8:36pm
I just read the rest of this thread...thank you for that!
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Registered: 01-14-2007
Fri, 07-06-2007 - 9:50pm
I think a "you go girl" is in order.
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Registered: 10-12-2006
Fri, 07-06-2007 - 9:52pm
THANK YOU LESLEY!!! A person who GETS what I was trying to do!!
I apprieciate the support.
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Fri, 07-06-2007 - 11:11pm

I knew I wanted to be a SAHM since high school maybe even earlier. My Mom stayed home with us and I loved having her home when I got out of school or if I was sick I didnt have to worry about her being able to leave work to come get me. She was able to attend all my sporting events and I knew that I wanted my kids to have that too.


Being able to see all their milestones is great and I personally would be heartbroken to hear about them from a babysitter. I am very fortunate to be able to stay home with my kids. I know that financially a lot of women can't and I tell my husband all the time that I appreciate how hard he works to make this possible for our family.


Being a SAHM isn't the right fit for every mother but is it for me.

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Registered: 04-14-2007
Fri, 07-06-2007 - 11:46pm

Your whole post is an example of the value of reading before giving an opinion -- maybe you missed the later clarification that my question was solely directed at the wisdom of encouraging teenagers to be SAHMs, not whether one should decide to be one as an adult. Also, not sure if you go to church, or where, but most of them have a WIDE range of opinions on various issues -- it's not cult-like, one-size-fits-all thinking -- so it's doubtful all the parents will be gung-ho about someone encouraging children to be SAHMs at vacation Bible School. Also, didn't hear the OP say this camp planned to have a variety of women in all walks of life talk about their careers -- just her, giving her "testimony.".

I take it from your post that since where you live, 13-year-olds regularly date and can possibly get pregnant, you think it's wise at Bible camp to start encouraging them now to marry and SAH if that happens. You're definitely entitled to your opinion, but sorry, where I live, it is most uncommon for 13-year-olds to date. And as to your personal attack, won't address it other than to say that glad you returned to the board -- but haven't you posted long enough to know when one of your posts will violate the TOS?

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Sat, 07-07-2007 - 12:20am
Thanks for sharing thats awesome!
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Sat, 07-07-2007 - 2:46am
Kelsey, welcome to the board! I havent been around much recently, but wanted to tell you that Hayden and Haylee are adorable, and you're beautiful as well! I love your pictures!

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Registered: 11-13-2003
Sat, 07-07-2007 - 4:50am

ok. if you really feel we must keep bashing our heads over this...(I personally, am done, but whatever)


"Your whole post is an example of the value of reading before giving an opinion"
I read it. all of it, a few times. I feel I made my point, and didnt dance around it (meaning my opinion).


"maybe you missed the later clarification that my question was solely directed at the wisdom of encouraging teenagers to be SAHMs, not whether one should decide to be one as an adult."


I read your post, a few times. I got what you meant. I really don't think that the OP was going into this bible camp, spreading propaganda, as you called it. Come on now!!!! Really? She is telling about

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Sat, 07-07-2007 - 11:48am

I've already introduced myself, you just weren't around, and I'm not inclined to do so again, not that I think you have any real interest in getting to know me, based on the rude tone of your very belated posts - just out of nowhere, days after the fact, and you're not even a CL. That whole "this board is for support, not debate" is something you throw around ONLY WHEN someone's opinion is different than yours. Never once has any CL said that someone can't disagree with a post on this board. So please let's not keep using that.

No matter how you spin it, you can't deny that the OP plans to use her testimony to encourage teenagers to be SAHMs. In her words, she seeks to give "a ton of reasons why SAH is the BEST CHOICE for our kids," backed up with a SELECTIVE LIST of Scripture. That goes FAR beyond describing "a day in the life" of a SAHM," as you seem to imply. That's not a routine topic for Bible camp at any of the 3 churches I've been to in the cities we've lived in. I'm very aware of the curriculum at our church's Bible camp and Sunday school, and believe me, nothing close to that has ever come up. We have sessions with teens on proper conduct while dating, but not whether to have kids one day or stay at home with them. I bet many parents will be shocked at this little speech. And your argument about what 13-year-olds do is really conflating two separate issues -- just because some have sex, and get pregnant, has nothing to do with whether they are old enough to have permission to date (unless you think dating and sex are one and the same). I really doubt that parents in most churches would happily allow their 13-year-olds to date, let alone, start thinking about whether to SAH one day. It's just not something that a teen should be considering one way or another, and I don't think I was in any way out of line in saying so.

Please, let's just drop the whole discussion. It's boring now, and it's too nice outside.

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Registered: 03-26-2003
Sat, 07-07-2007 - 1:56pm

I know why I love you so much, Lesley!! You ROCK! ;)

Ya know, I just read through this whole thread and am astounded, I really am. . . I just wonder why it is people come on here, use only a USERNAME and not their real names, seem to know so much about the personal lives of all the regular posters, never share much about their own personal lives, and do nothing but attack and debate, without so much as a signature to their posts.

The only thing I can think of is that they're psychologically unstable and thrive off of making others feel bad. But really, then, we should feel sorry for them.

I think the best policy is IGNORE. I'm assuming this is a fairly regular poster disguised by an alternate username, because they're too afraid to reveal their true identity. Again, reason for us to pity them. But not really worth arguing with them.

Maybe we should all be alerted to this username, and just put her on IGNORE. I know the reason a lot of us long-time posters no longer post here is because of the oozing green animosity that leaked through the stable, supportive fabric of our otherwise amazingly drama-free board. Maybe time to sop up some more green ooze and move on. . .

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