why can't they just get along!!!
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why can't they just get along!!!
| Mon, 01-17-2005 - 1:04pm |
I dont know what to do!
My DD who is 9 and my DS who is almost 5 (feb 24) fight all the time. They cant do anything together without fighting. I try so hard to explain to them they have to be best friends and they shouldnt always try to get each other in trouble. They (no school today) just had a fight over who would put the leap frog video in.
What works for you? They both get along great with my DS who is 1. I know its normal but is it normal for me to feel like I am going crazy?????LOL. Eileen

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I have bought a puzzle that has fifty pieces in it, then I seperated them into ziplock bags (10 in each bag). When they work together and not fight they earn a piece out of the bag when the complete a bag they get a treat (ice cream, etc..) when they have finished the whole puzzle then they get a special night out. They get to choose where we eat and the activity after dinner. Right now they have 12 pieces left and they are already talking about where they want to go. At the moment they want to go bowling! It seems to work and does take alot of time but it has helped them work together.
Krisy
I don't have any good advice for you, but maybe a piece of mind. I am the oldest of 4. There is almost 9 years between me and my closest brother. He and I would fight constantly, even after I had my own kids and he got bigger than me. we didn't just holler, we hit, tackled, kicked, whatever we could. but the plus side to this, no one ever messed with us when we were together. We always stand up for each other to people outside our family. He was getting hit by another kid on the bus and everyday the bus driver yelled at my brother. He told me of the problem, a little while later we got into a fight, but the next day on the bus. I yelled at the other kid when the driver started to holler at my brother (who wasn't doing anything) and I told her what I thought.
What i am pointing out, is that no matter how much siblings fight, they do love each other and will always be there for each other.
As a mother, the best thing to do is let them work out what they can only setting basic rules for the fighting. no name calling, no hitting, shoving, etc. depending on the age. they break the rules, then they sit or clean. the punishment needs to be tried to see what works with your child.
i was always made to clean because i liked to hide in my room with no radio or tv. on the other hand, my brother hates to have to sit with out the radio or television. so try different things a couple of times and use what works for which child.
For a peace of mind, walk away. if at all possible, leave the house and let another adult deal with them while you get your peace back. we don't have our children very long. right now it may seem as though it will never end. but before you know it, they will be gone and your home will be so quiet that you will go crazy with the emptiness.
relax and take each phase with peace of mind that it will end.
Good Luck to you and God Bless!
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