Why does it seem everything revolves...

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Registered: 12-13-2003
Why does it seem everything revolves...
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Sun, 06-20-2004 - 4:09pm
Man!

Why does it seem like everything revolves around infants, toddlers, and preschoolers? This is SO dang frustrating! I'm a SAHM of 4 kids. My older 2 live w/my ex, so it's just the younger 2 girls at home. They're 5 1/2 and 8, and there are so many groups/msg boards out there for 0-4 yrs of age, but once you hit 5, forget it! I'm not going to school, and I don't work, so it's VERY hard to meet ppl. I'm actively involved in my dd's girl scouts, but most of the moms you only see when they drop off/pick up their kids. I don't know any of my neighbors. I've lived here for almost a yr now. Most of my neighbors speak Spanish, so we can't understand each other, anyways!

I've tried joining sites to meet ppl, but it's mostly for singles and dating. Which isn't what I'm looking for, since I'm happily married, and if I put that I'm a woman looking for a woman, they think I'm gay! GRRR!!! There's GOTTA be some way to meet ppl nowadays!

Anyone have any ideas????

I'm sick and tired of being so dang lonely and BORED all the time! I never get out. maybe once a year, w/my dh. And I've had a few "new" friends we've tried to make ask us to go out like dozens of times, but like I said, we don't know anyone, and so we don't have a babysitter, so we can never even go out if we wanted to!

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Registered: 03-19-2003
Sun, 06-20-2004 - 9:05pm

Hi there ans welcome,, I am a mom to 3 girls ages 12, 5, and 3!!

Kim~

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Registered: 12-13-2003
Sun, 06-20-2004 - 9:21pm
I have 3 girls, 12, 8 (next month), and 5. And my son is 13. But like I said, the other 2 don't live w/me. I'll go ck that board out. Thanks!
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Registered: 04-01-2004
Mon, 06-21-2004 - 8:20am
I can understand your frustration. My dh and I just relocated to a small city from a large city and it has been a very hard adjustment for me. We have no family or friends here and there are NO playgroups whatsoever! I have looked everywhere! Most of our neighbors keep to themselves and there are very few children in our neighborhood. The few that are around are much older.....

I am not sure what city you are in, but you could check out the website www.sahm.meetup.com. This is a website for SAHM to meet other people in their area. There is one day every month that you get together - the location is voted on during the weeks prior. The only downside is if you live in a small area, chances are your meetings won't happen. I think you have to have 5 people vote on being there....

Hope this helps!

Cari

Cari

Mom to 5 yr old girl and 2 yr old twinadoes!

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Registered: 01-06-2004
Mon, 06-21-2004 - 8:46am
I also agree with you.
I have a 5 year old and then a 6 month old and I find it hard to do much of anyhting with him.
Have you tried matchingmoms.org? or MOMSclub.com? Yahoo also has groups for local areas a well as on IVIllage....
Good luck.

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Registered: 03-29-2003
Mon, 06-21-2004 - 1:06pm
I try to meet moms at church. Even that is hard these days because we are out of town alot as my FIL has terminal cancer. It's lonely right now, but my neighbor says it's temporary. She said once I start schlepping my kids to sports practices etc life will be busy and meeting new people alot and I'll forget I was lonely.
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Registered: 12-13-2003
Mon, 06-21-2004 - 6:22pm
Thanks for the link, Cari! I tried it, but it said they're having errors w/it or something. I'll have to remember to ck it later!

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Registered: 12-13-2003
Mon, 06-21-2004 - 6:27pm
I've tried matchingmoms, but it's pretty dead there. I've emailed (or left msgs) for 8-9 ppl, and only 2 ppl responded and I only heard from them 1 time.

clubmom is totally dead. Completely. I'll ck out momsclub, thanks!
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Registered: 12-13-2003
Mon, 06-21-2004 - 6:35pm
My kids aren't in any "organizations" or sports. Well, they're in girl scouts, and I'm quite involved w/that, but most of the time I only see the moms when they drop off/pick up their kids. None of they stay for the mtgs!

I can't afford to put them in the sports or YMCA, as our income in VERY limited, and trying to raise 4 kids on 1 small income doesn't quite cut it. LOL! You've got to cut unnecessary stuff.

We don't go to church. We believe in evolution. Unfortunately, THEY don't have a place to get together every week! LMAO! Otherwise, yeah, I'd prob. try to go, just to be social. I'm so desperate that I've even tried researching the Adopt a Grandparent program online to see if maybe I could get hooked up w/a cpl of older neighbors or someone w/in 10 mins from my home. Heck, they'd be happy just going to the park, sitting on a bench, and reading! Or we can sew together or something.

I'm just tired of being cooped up.

sniff, sniff!

I'm lonely! Boo hoo!

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Registered: 12-13-2003
Mon, 06-21-2004 - 6:40pm
FYI for anyone else who's interested, that sahm.meetup one, there's a membership fee for it. I think it's $30/yr.