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| Tue, 04-06-2004 - 7:15pm |
well here is a small bit of the situation,, my dd dances with another girl,, has for 9 years now,, the mother and I have been friends for quite awhile,, at 1st we were just aquaintainces and then we would talk on the phone, hang out at all the dance things and ride together. Since last yr she has become friends with another mother too, and they talk quite a bit. I have felt like a 3rd wheel around them, they kind of formed a click and kind of snub me. She doesn't talk to me on the phone anymore, she doesnt answer my emails, and we used to bring home her girls after dance and now she just picks them up, without ever saying that she didn't need us to do it anymore.
I sent her a card in the mail,, just one of those you are my friend cards with a small note saying that I thought our friendship has faded and that I didn't know why,, I really don't! I never did anything. Well my question is,, she never answered it,, I mean she didn't call or write or email to say ''hey that's not true'' or anything.
I have no idea why,, but am I to just guess that she no longer wants to be my friend? I mean I don't want to be a nag and say something,,, what would you do? and what do you honestly think?
THANKS SO MUCH,,,


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Good Luck,
Shelby
SAHM to Haylei
Is / was there problems between your dd and hers?
If not, than excuse me, but screw her. You were the bigger person, who had your friendship in your best of hearts when you sent her the card. If she didn't respond... I can't answer why she didn't. But she isn't worth it. It is very hard to lose a friendship, especially when your kids play together... do yours? (I mean your dd and hers?) If they don't, then cut your losses, and be poliet (sp??? its late!!!) when you see her, and know in your heart that you did everything you could do. If she is imature enough to form a "clique" at this age, then that is her problem. Maybe her "new friend" drives her dd around in a "better" vehicle... she sounds like a bi#@h to me.... good ridance!!!
Keep your chin up !!!!
Lesley
Good Luck, Friendships are to cherish, so Id confront her were she cant ignore you. Then so be it, you will know. After that you will know you have done all you can do.
Violet
Hi Kim ((hugs)),
I know exactly how you feel...stuff like that gets to me SOOO badly...and it makes you feel like something is wrong with you.
It just seems to be all or none for me. If I have my few close friends, I would rather not stress over the rest of the friends that don't care to understand what I'm all about. I think it's really sad that you have put forth so much effort into reaching out to this lady, and she has been so rude. I am also one of those people, that before I "let go" I NEED to know why. ;) So, if it were me in your shoes, I would call her and INSIST on a streight answer. If for no other reason, but for your own info to know where things might have gone wrong for future info. Then move on. She is obviously not prioritizing your friendship, it would be useless for you to prioritize it.
BTW, I agree, that was REALLY rude of her to not give you notice that your favors are no longer needed. I think you were going above and beyond to start with, she should have shown MUCH more appreciation for that!! I think SHE'S the one that's stuck in high school!! UGH!!
Angie
clarity
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