Would you let your in laws take.....*m*

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Registered: 09-30-2003
Would you let your in laws take.....*m*
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Sun, 03-14-2004 - 2:30am
Your child for three days? Haylei is almost 3 months old and my MIL and FIL want to take her with them on a little "vacation" to Arkansas. I trust them and know they would never do anything that would put her in danger but still I worry. I breastfeed exclusivly but I guess I could always send some formula with them,do you think that would confuse her? Would you let your in laws take your child for 3 days?

TIA,

Shelby

SAHM to Haylei

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Registered: 09-15-2003
Mon, 03-15-2004 - 8:41am
I'd have to say "No Way!" as well.

I think that your in-laws could be in for a nasty surprise if the baby didn't take the bottle, didn't like the formula, hated being away from you. What kind of trip are they setting up for themselves! Maybe they don't truly remember how needy a three-month old can be.

Also, you will miss her (him? I can't remember...I read all the previous posts and forgot the original. Sorry!) just a ton. I went to Mexico to be in a wedding when my dd was 6 months old (for 4 days) and I was just beside myself. I didn't sleep well, kept waking up thinking I heard her crying...etc, etc. I wake up now thinking that she is out of her crib and just roaming the house in the middle of the night (god only knows why I do that! She can't get out of the crib!) Anyway...

I am curious to know why they want to take her... are there people that they want her to meet? It's such a huge committment for them!

I know it's only 3 days....but that's a LOT for a three month old!

HTH,

Melissa

Meldi
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Registered: 03-27-2003
Mon, 03-15-2004 - 9:39am
I would be nervous about the breastfeeding. My ds had his first taste of formula at 6 months and once he did that he didn't want to nurse again. It really hurt my feelings.

I would also be afraid of spending the 3 days worrying. It would be nice for a break though :).

Good luck with your decision!

Stacey

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Registered: 07-30-2003
Fri, 03-19-2004 - 8:36pm
Nope. I couldn't bring myself to leave any of my babies until they were almost 2 yrs old, and even then, it would be a short weekend (over one night). Recently we left my children for our anniversary, and I fretted the whole time over leaving my 2 yr old for three days, two nights. It was hard. I think you will be surprised at how much it upsets you if you do it.

No one has even mentioned the EXRUSHIATING (sp?) PAIN you will be in if you all the sudden stop nursing for three days. It's very hard to pump enough to stay somewhat comfortable. Your breasts will triple in size, and you could feel a fly land on them! I have been unlucky enough to have my nursling go on a nursing strike for a whole week when he was over a year old. I never would have thought it was that big of a deal since his diet was mostly solids by then. Boy was I wrong! I can't imagine what it would be like three months into breastfeeding to go three days (and I did try pumping several times when he was on his strike, too)!

It is very common for a baby to have never had a bottle, to think you were pulling a practical joke on him by giving him a bottle. Mine would scream bloody murder when I tried to introduce a bottle at three months.

Your baby is just a baby for such a short time. Grandparents will have PLENTY of chances to steal her away for a weekend.

Good luck.

Angie

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Registered: 04-06-2003
Sun, 03-21-2004 - 12:01pm
NO WAY!!!!

At three months, YOU are her security! Nursing is not just nourishment, it is her bonding time with you. My kids would have come UNGLUED to be away from me that long! She is still so little... IMO you should wait until she is maybe 2 or 3 YEARS old.

 

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