Young mom, have a question.....

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Registered: 11-11-2005
Young mom, have a question.....
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Mon, 07-10-2006 - 9:52pm
Hi all
I dont know if this would be appropriate board to ask this kinda question on but i am a stay at home mom so i thought maybe some of you could offer some insight to my question....
I am 26 almost 27 I have one son to whom im a full time mom to, i have a significant other who is older than me by 20 years, im perfectly ok with it.....I had a baby when i was 16 that i gave up for adoption and have been taking care of via baby sitting since i was 12, i along with help from older siblings practically raised my now 15 year sister for hte first 2 years of her life then i moved out of the house hwen i was 15 ( which is why i made bad choices and got prego at 15 and had a baby at 16) i dropped out of school and went back, had my son when i was 20 in an abusive relationship, got stronger left that relationship and my and my significant other have been together for 6 months ( i have been seperated from my sons father for over 4 years now)but i also helped one of my older sisters in raising her 2 boys now 14 and 10, she had a baby girl a year and a half ago and my other sister has 2 boys 6 and 3 that i dont see much.... but as i look at my life and what i have accomplished and what i want to accomplish i am thinking about gettin sterilized and not having anymore kids, granted i love my son , my family and wouldnt ask alot of things to be different ( altho i woulda opted to stay in school) so i guess after my long winded vent i want to know from anyone out there if it is selffish or wrong, stupid or something i would regret if i considered being sterilized at almost 27 with one child or not?? Its something that has crossed my mind alot in the last year and everyone tells me im to young or i will regret it in a few years and i also always told myself if i didnt have anymore kids by the time i was 30 i was done , is that selffish??? thank you for any input, have a wonderful evening :)
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Registered: 03-25-2005
Mon, 07-10-2006 - 9:59pm

I can understand how children have affected your life since you were young and because of that you are more mature than most.




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Registered: 04-04-2006
Mon, 07-10-2006 - 11:24pm

I didnt read the other post but here is my story......
My youngest bro was born when i was 13 yrs old. from what my best friend tells me, i practically raised him.... ( i have a VERY selective memory, remembering only the good parts.)
I got married at 19, baby born shortly after..... i am now 26, 3 kids later, i dont get regular child support, ( i divorced him 5 ys after we were married.) anyway. i have been on welfare for the majority of the last 6 yrs. i decided to get my tubes tied June 27, 2005. i figure, i need to give the kids i got the best i can, not bring more in the world... and sometimes 3 is more than i can handle........ no, you are not crazy..... some can tell when they have what they can handel........ if you think it is the best for you, then it doesnt matter what anyone else thinks....... my mom was worried, " what if u meet some one later that wants kids." i said. " great, i have 3..." BTW, my SO / fiance loves mine like they are his, plus he cant have any either.... so its all up to you. you do what YOU THINK IS BEST!!!!!!! that is all that matters because YOU are the one who has to deal with itm, and make LIFE work..... if you EVER need to talk.. IM - YAHOO me @ ajredneckgrl.....'

~Shannon