Common courtesy is NOT common anymore

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Common courtesy is NOT common anymore
Sat, 09-21-2013 - 11:58am

Warning, this is another rant. I had an interview a couple of weeks ago for a position where the librarian resigned very close to the start of the year. It was supposed to be a permanet position but, then the principal calls me at home and says now it's just a sub position and they are only interviewing two people. One of them is me. It's going to be just him and me at the interview. Ok, I say and go to the interview the next day. i show up and it's actually a committee. It's not a traditional library job. They really need someone to teach freshman how to use iPads because a few years ago they started a 1:1 iPad initiative. I am not an expert but I give the interview my best shot. He tells me he'll call me soon and they will make a decision by the end of the week. So I bet you can guess what i am going to say next.....I don't hear from him until a week and a half later. He calls after the school day is over and leaves a message where he says he will call me the next day. I try calling back but there is no one to answer the phone because school is over. The next day he does not call back. It's obvious that I didn't get the job but couldn't he at least send me an email, a letter or actually call?!!!!

And what makes this whole thing worse is, he and my dh used to work together. My dh sent him an email when this position posted and asked him to look at my application. Also this principal's wife works in my dh's district so he knows her too. I guess it doesn't even matter if you have a personal connection to someone. Common courtesy is actually dead. I have gotten to the point where I do not believe any interviewer anymore. It's a sad state of affairs that much more often than not, admistrators do not make contact with me to let me know I didn't get the job. How hard is it to send an email? I hate being so cynical but, my experiences have mostly been bad and that's just how I feel now.

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Tue, 09-24-2013 - 8:22am

It's like this everywhere. My daughter is job hunting and has had several interviews and none follow up when they say they will. She just called complaining that she's still waiting and no one is doing what they promised. She is still in the running for 2 jobs but she goes to the interviews and provides what they request. They say they will call by the end of the week with a decision and she hears back maybe 10 days later, if at all, with an apology and excuse for a delay. The one that promoted from within never bothered to call at all. She's had this from 3 companies. 

In general I've had more no calls than replies in my interviews, a few form letters, and only one recently that called back. He spent 15 minutes apologizing that the board overruled him and hired someone from within. He offered to be a reference for me and provided his info, said he would refer me to other admins, and told me to call him any time. He was really sincere. That's rare today. He just announced he was retiring at the end of the year so another good guy is leaving education.

In general I see very little courtesy in daily events. No one offers apologies for bumping in to you while shopping. No one opens doors if your hands are full.  No one says, "Excuse me," when they walk in front of you. Times have changed for sure.

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Registered: 11-13-2011
Sun, 01-26-2014 - 4:31pm

If the interview was totally different job that what they first told you, then the problem to begin with is dishonesty on their part.