Dealing with difficult co-workers

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Registered: 04-21-2008
Dealing with difficult co-workers
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Sun, 03-01-2009 - 7:19pm

Over the summer, I asked for advice concerning two co-workers who seemed to have nothing good to say about our new administrator. I wish I could say that things have gotten better but they haven't. They both continue to be negative, bad mouth and berate our administrator to me. It's gotten to be such an annoyance to me that I don't stay in my classroom or office before school, during lunch or after school. I find places to sequester myself where I know they won't find me or I can converse with other staff members. I'm sure that's the coward's way out, but these two are driving me nuts!

One of them is a second-year teacher who is known to drag her personal issues to work with her. She's still quite young as far as teaching goes (she's about 24 or so) and she seems to have this need to be the "cool" teacher. She's had a few run-ins with the admin and I'm beginning to think many of her issues with our admin is the fact that the admin is a woman. I stupidly allowed this co-worker to add me to Facebook and I'm almost ashamed to read some of her status updates when we've had a meeting of some sort. The things she's said about our admin are things that could easily get her into serious trouble.

The other co-worker can't take a hint. I blatantly told him one day to speak with our admin if he had questions or issues about the subject of a recent inservice, but he still searches me out to complain about how our admin is running things. He claimed he would but as far as I can tell, he never did. He also knows that I'm on board with all the changes our admin has put into place, yet he still feels the need to draw me into his issues with her.

I've been so frustrated with both of them at times that I've considered going in to the admin's office and asking her if I can discuss the situation and the problems I've had with these people. I'd try to negotiate with both of them if I thought it were possible to do so but they are both such stubborn-minded people that I don't think it would work. Should I go in and speak with our admin about this situation?


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Registered: 03-24-2003
Mon, 03-02-2009 - 12:23pm

Whether these people are likely to get you in trouble through their complaining should be your deciding factor. If they just irritate you and the things they are doing or saying, at school or outside their job, don't or probably won't affect you then ignore them avoid them and make you opinion clear to them

Sherry

 

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Registered: 05-25-2007
Tue, 03-03-2009 - 11:53am

Maybe you need to give specific disagreement to unhappy coworkers??

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Registered: 04-21-2008
Tue, 03-03-2009 - 5:32pm

Thanks for the advice. I think I let them get to me a little too much and this week has seemed to do well by me either acting completely aloof to their complaints or avoiding them entirely. At least one of them appears to have taken the hint somewhat, but the other hasn't.

I've made my point clear enough to both of them, but it appears that nothing I've said to them matters. Fair enough. I have the ability to avoid them and have as little interaction as possible. I think they feed off one another, and if they are happy to be miserable together, then that's their cross to bear, to be so cliched.

I do, however, dread inservice time with them because all they do is complain. I could get so much more done if I didn't have to sit with them and listen to their sniping. I guess this is where I learn to take a cue from my students and use my selective hearing!


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Registered: 03-24-2003
Wed, 03-04-2009 - 6:51pm

Good idea! And be sure to keep doodling. Did you see the news report

Sherry