first time teacher mom

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Registered: 09-09-2008
first time teacher mom
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Tue, 09-09-2008 - 2:51am

I've been a teacher for 11 years but a mom for just 4 weeks. I am a blessed first time mom of a baby boy. I am currently on maternity leave and only have one more week left before I have to drop my son off at daycare and return to work. I'm not one who sides with either side of the daycare vs. stay at home debate...I think children under either care who are loved and taken care of flourish. That being said I am already shedding tears and can hardly stand the thought of missing a moment with my son. I'm 33 and thought for a long time I was one who didn't have to have kids...that the kids in my classrooms all these years was plenty...until now. Now I can't get enough...I could stare at him for hours:) Okay now to my call for help...I know I'm not the first to experience this so let me hear from you mommas out there...any advice to help me through this decision and transition?


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Registered: 04-19-2004
Tue, 09-09-2008 - 6:10pm

Congratulations first of all! Let me begin by saying it is going to be okay!!!


I am a mom of 10 yrs w/ 2 kids. I was also a daycare owner/provider for 7.5 yrs (and taught preschool during 4 of the years).

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Registered: 03-24-2003
Tue, 09-09-2008 - 11:22pm

Great advice!

Sherry

 

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Registered: 07-14-2005
Wed, 09-10-2008 - 1:35pm

Also congrats & good luck on the transition!

Again, really couldn't top the advice already given except to do what feels right and works for you and your family. I'm a mom to 5 - ranging from D32 down to S18 - all except the last 18yo grown up and on their own. Almost an empty nester. I started out working as a secretary working my way up to office manager before kids. I wanted to be the one at home w/my kids, I think I tried daycare for my first once way, way back, and as with most families, I had to help bring in some income. I also chose the route of being a WAHM by doing licensed childcare. Not only did it work for me to be home w/my kids, it worked for us better money-wise. I was home, I was quite busy w/everyone elses kids it seems - but it worked for us for many, many years. My oldest D became a 6th gr teacher before I headed back to school to become one, but she has also chosen to not go back to the classroom since her two babies were born and is making that work for them. This year she is going to try working w/the CA version of the internet academy. I'm a relatively new classroom teacher and I'm one of those who at this point prefer high schoolers after having been w/the little ones for so long.

I applaud young teacher-moms who do both, and there are some moms for whom working makes them better moms - its a big part of who they are. I don't think it would have worked for me. I find teaching to be a highly demanding job that requires you to be your best for those kids who are your students. There is something to be said for allowing yourself to put your own first - & you have to be comfortable w/what you have to let go of because there is no way I could have accomplished it all. But then I have a bit of a problem letting things go without stressing when I'm feeling like I just can't get it all done.

Good luck with the transition.

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Registered: 04-11-2008
Mon, 09-22-2008 - 7:26pm

I logged on looking for a board for mom's returning to work - imagine my surprise when I saw your post.

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Registered: 11-18-2007
Tue, 09-30-2008 - 5:54pm

All I can say is I am right there with you.