Hey Teacher pals, off topic subject, but I'd love your opinions

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Hey Teacher pals, off topic subject, but I'd love your opinions
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Sun, 04-08-2012 - 4:19am

FIrst, let me say that even though I'm not working in a position as a teacher, I am at a great school with wonderful kids and colleagues and once again I totally love my job. Now, financially, I'm still struggling, but I'm working on it.

Spring break has been great and I'm actually looking forward to going back to work.

Now to my off topic question. I know many of you are in relationships. I am in a new relationship with someone younger and in many ways it is already beginning to drain me. '

Yes, I know there are other boards for this, but I know you guys the best and so I'd love your opinions. This guy is doing what I call a "push-pull" thing. One minute he's pushing me away,then when I walk away, he pulls me closer.

One minute he says I dont understand him, then when I try, he says, nevermind.

One day he is all over me, the next day he sits next to me, texting on his phone. So then I pick up my phone and starting texting because well he's tuned out so I tune out.

He claims to have all these feelings, but when I demonstrate my feelings to him, he pulls away. Yet constantly tells me he loves me and cares.

The back and forth is confusing. Sometimes I feel like I'm being too sensitive and other times he makes me feel like I'm insensitive to his needs.

Did I mention he is much younger than me?? I wont say how much, but enough for me to want to say, "Skippy get your butt back to the playground cause GT dont play with kids afterschool." LOL.

He's in his 20's, I'm 41 (in fact 41 this past Wednesday) I want to be patient with him as this is all very new to both of us, but the push pull, yes no, in out, I want you, I dont, is making my head spin.

Thoughts??

Oh and ps, I love my job, but I do need to make more and I'm going to get back on the job rollercoaster again. I was happy to be off of it, but need more dough.

GT41

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Hi, GT! Long time no hear!

Sherry
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Sherry's post was excellent.

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Sherry,

All I have to say is DAMN!! You hit that nail so far on the head, I couldn't do anything but laugh. Oh and did I mention how many times he calls things he doesn't understand or like "stupid and dumb" Yeah, dumb questions, dumb people, dumb movies, stupid thoughts. Blah, Blah, Blah.

I certainly dont see this as a very long term relationship, but it is also too early to count it out yet. I mean it's only been six weeks. But wow, the boy has so many hang ups, at one point you want to help him and the next moment, you want to smack him.

Anyway, time will tell!!

GT41

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"Men grow big and strong, but the rarely grow UP" I heard this from an author once and I'll be damned if it's not true.

GT41
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Promise me one thing, GT. Don't spend too much time waiting to see if things develop in a more positive way. Your instincts seem to be

Sherry
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Update:

Two words ladies: HE"S GONE!!

Bottom line, he was just too young, distant and honestly verbally abusive. Not gonna take that anymore.

Onward and Upward!!

GT41

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Agreed! Onward and upward! How are you planning to spend your summer? What else has been happening with you besides getting rid of the jerky guy ?
Sherry