Honeymoon period

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Honeymoon period
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Sun, 08-08-2004 - 8:26am
Hey all - survived two days of school with children - whoo hoo! They are perfect. They listen. They are seated. They raise their hand when asking questions. They are polite and yes ma'm me...yes, I am in a world of self delusion temporarily and LOVING it, but I'm waiting for the ball to drop - perhaps this week or the next. Too bad the honeymoon period can't last forever!! Ahhh real world will come a knockin soon enough.

D

PS Boy that first day on heels was a killer. My feet hurt and so did my voice - I don't think I talked that much all summer! UGH!


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Mon, 08-09-2004 - 6:23am
First of all, please take no offense, I mean this constructively. I am a fellow teacher, with ten years' experience under my belt and God knows, much to learn. But this was my reaction at your post and I am sending it to you in hopes you can see something of where I'm coming from, maybe get something positive out of it:

*Hey all - survived two days of school with children - whoo hoo!

Response: Is that supposed to be a joke, or why have you chosen a profession where you consider it a cause for celebration to survive two days?

*They are perfect. They listen. They are seated. They raise their hand when asking questions. They are polite and yes ma'm me...

Response: Do you actually believe that "perfect children" are those that just sit and listen and don't interrupt and raise their hand? What about thinking for themselves, forming and expressing opinions, participating in discussions - and what's with the sitting? Since when is it wrong for children to walk/move around while learning?

*..yes, I am in a world of self delusion temporarily and LOVING it, but I'm waiting for the ball to drop - perhaps this week or the next. Too bad the honeymoon period can't last forever!! Ahhh real world will come a knockin soon enough.

Response: What you describe as the honeymoon period sounds as the "shock" period of a group of children who are just getting to know you...thank God they have the resilience/strength/courage to start being themselves after a while!

*PS Boy that first day on heels was a killer. My feet hurt and so did my voice - I don't think I talked that much all summer! UGH!

Response: No, it's none of my business, but why wear heels on a job where you expect to be on your feet most of the day? And as for your voice - why are you doing so much talking? How much are you listening to the children? Or do you not believe they may have some important things to say? How will you get to know them in the first few days of school if you don't listen to them - I mean isn't that what the first few days of school is for, to get to know them? Or do you believe in "teaching curriculum" vs. teaching children...that you don't need to know them and you can start spouting stuff at them - is that what you really think?

Now having said all this, again please don't take offense. I'm honestly not intending to create any animosity, however I am sending you my unedited gut response to your post, simply because I think everyone deserves to hear a different point of view from their own and that it can be helpful to do so. I hope you'll consider this in particular regarding your students.

Thanks and good night.

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Mon, 08-09-2004 - 5:40pm
Okay, so how can I not take offense to that? No matter how well you did about sugar coating it.

I sat here thinking of an appropriate response at what really was a well thought out attack on me. You seriously misunderstand and apparently have no sense of humor.

It was a light hearted joke at what all first days are like. I want to yell a how dare you make such assumptions on my teaching abilities, but frankly you haven't gotten a clue. If you don't think that first days are a matter of reviewing rules and procedures and getting to know you then I would seriously suggest reading Harry Wong's the first day of school. I very rarely lecture to my students because I believe better by doing than by being lectured to; however, that's what you do on the first day. I am very involved in Kagan teaching methods. Lecturing is not my style. The only lecturing I've done for the last months have been at my son, so yes my throat was sore at not talking as much.

Heels - well, they are part of the professional attire and yes, living in sneaks all summer - heels are uncomfortable and need adjusting to. Our school is very keen about us looking professional. Teaching children that first impressions are important might as well begin in the classroom.

Here it is - I teach middle school kids. If you think for a moment that my 120 kids who have such a variety of baggage they bring to the classroom are perfect - they aren't. I'm not disallusioned at all;however, for the time they are in my classroom my goal is for them to reach their full potential and learn. For those moments, they are my children and I do what I can to make sure they achieve. I am a good teacher - how do I know this, well after follow up with my students over the years I found a common thread - they achieve and why do they say this because I took the time to care about them and motivate them. I believed in them sometimes when others wouldn't. If I can do that in just one kid, my job is done. I love teaching because of that and so much more. My students have become professionals themselves and given back to our community in ways I couldn't have imagined.

The most disturbing thing about your post is that you have no idea who I am, but in one clear cut and cold movement you've take the time to pigeon hold me into some box and label me as someone who I am most clearly not. My suggestion to you is that if you misunderstand a statement that you perhaps phrase it into perhaps a question instead of making blanket assumptions about a person. It is blanket assumptions and stereotypes that make narrow minded people. If one is narrow minded, then one can not be open to the possibilities and opportunities that exist out there for all people - dare I say our students.

And here's the positive thing about this post for me - often I really hold myself in. I don't take the time to toot my own horn, because that's not me. I do what I do because I love it. Thanks for giving me the opportunity to reflect on the good things I do and the accomplishments I have made in my profession.

That is my take on your post - that being me who by the way is a 15 year veteran teacher, master degree teacher of education, master/mentor teacher, department head and teacher of the year.

And remember you have a good evening too.

D

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Mon, 08-09-2004 - 6:35pm
D - There should be an icon for "standing ovation". You did a good job of standing up for yourself. I was one of the readers who took your original post in the lighthearted way that it was intended. Just wanted to make sure you knew that there were others out there who came away with a different viewpoint than 'barbarainoregon' after reading your original post.

Tamie

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Mon, 08-09-2004 - 7:19pm
Thank you so much. That means a lot to me.

D

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Thu, 08-12-2004 - 2:49pm

Hey, I agree with Tamie. We all know you and didn't take offense to anything you had in your original post. I think you responded very well.

Sherry

 

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Thu, 08-12-2004 - 4:10pm
Wow! talk about no sense of humor......I know how you meant your post. I'm sorry you were attacked. Geez if we can't blow off steam here, where can we do it? Teaching is a tough job and just because we admit that kids can be a pain sometimes does not make us bad teachers.

I hope your year is still going well

guili