How do I handle this incident?

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Registered: 05-06-2004
How do I handle this incident?
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Sun, 09-27-2009 - 11:17am
I'm a music teacher at a new job. I had a fourth grade class last week and the kids were all asking to go to the bathroom. They tend to do that in all my classes and it's becoming very disruptive. So I told the class that we were only in my room a short time and nobody needed to go to the bathroom. So this one girl had her friend ask for her to go to the bathroom. The friend said with an attitude "She 'bout to pee herself." Both girls had smirks on their faces so I figured they were looking for an excuse to get out of class. I still wouldn't let them go and the girl peed herself, I think deliberately. I know it sounds ludicrous of me to say she would do it on purpose but her classroom teacher, the school nurse, the social worker (who has worked with this girl) and the dean of students agreed that she probably did it on purpose.
So anyway I get a very rude letter from her grandmother the next day saying that I'm not a caring and competent teacher, this was a long letter saying alot of rude things. Then the grandmother wrote a letter to the principal about me and photocopied it and gave me a copy. I spoke with the dean of students about it and she told me not to worry but I am worried about getting in trouble because of this. Also, back to school night is this week and I'm afraid her grandmother is going to ambush me.
First of all, this girl didn't even ask herself, her friend asked with an attitude, second, I think she peed herself just to spite me because I wouldn't let her go. Also, ever since the incident this girl and her friend smirk at me and whisper and gigle whenever they see me. How do I handle this whole situation?
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Sun, 09-27-2009 - 11:55am

If the grandmother shows up, I wouldn't mention my suspicions, only what I know to be true. The girl didn't ask herself. If she truly had to go, she could've approached you herself.

I would also ask the office to be on the lookout for the grandmother and if she comes to your room, have the dean or another (supportive) witness there while you speak with her.

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Registered: 03-24-2003
Sun, 09-27-2009 - 5:36pm

I agree that the girl should have asked herself. You have no reason to give her consideration if another person is speaking for her.

Sherry

 

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Registered: 05-06-2004
Sun, 09-27-2009 - 11:09pm
Thank you so much for taking the time to answer my post. Your suggestions are very helpful!
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