I'm going to hell....

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Registered: 06-04-2003
I'm going to hell....
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Thu, 06-15-2006 - 2:44pm

Why do you ask?? I think I discussed this before but I am feeling so bad about it, I just had to say it again...

I have about 3 kids in my room whom I just can't stand. I am so bothered by it. I want to like them I do, but I don't. I feel like I have tried my best but these kids have developed into cruel, foul acting little people mainly because of their environments and I understand it, however I just don't like them....

I know that's the way life goes and there are plenty of folks who don't like me but I still feel like a first-class heel because I have no positive feelings about these children....

Oh well, just pray for my fallen soul...

GT35

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Thu, 06-15-2006 - 5:03pm

Cheer up, GT! You've got a serious case of the end of the year blues and you're completely normal. We all have kids that we don't like, don't bond with and can't connect with now and then. I had a class

Sherry

 

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Thu, 06-15-2006 - 6:20pm

I know but most parents expect people to like their kids even if they are not being raised to be good people...

I understand you can't like everyone but man I feel so BLAH!! about it...

Anywhoo, I have one more week with them and then 2 months of freedom!!

GT35

Thanks Sherry!!

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Thu, 06-15-2006 - 6:50pm

So...how will they know you don't like their kids unless you show it or actully tell them?

Sherry

 

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Thu, 06-15-2006 - 9:46pm

My first year I had so many


crazy

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Thu, 06-15-2006 - 9:47pm

Why WOULD you like cruel, foul acting people of any age?

That is a totally unreasonable expectation and anyone who expects that needs to wake up and do some parenting so their kids have the basic self control needed for people in life (not just teachers) to like them.

You are not required to like them. You are required to be fair. You are required to give your best effort to them, even when they put forth little to none. You are required to not get abusive. You are required to remain professional. But no one can legislate that you like someone.

When someone's main goal in life seems to be to prevent you from doing your job...
When you watch someone continually steal opportunities and positive environments from other kids in the room...
When you watch someone be abusive to other people around them....

WHY would you like that? Why should anyone?

Any teacher who says they have never had a student that they really did not like - is either lying or has been extremely lucky and only teaching a few years. There are people out there who, even as young children, are basically cruel and evil. Very sad, but true. Adults who end up psychopaths and murderers? I'll bet their kindergarten teacher already knew something was wrong.

Sure - - you try to find a strength in the child. You try to find something good about them.

But...sometimes....the best you can do is to treat them well despite your feelings.
It's your actions that truly count, not your feelings.

I don't think you need to beat yourself up over that.

In 15 years of teaching 400+ kids every year, there are very few kids I have felt this way about. But, there have been those kids. Honestly? I believe it is better to acknowledge your feelings and then be very vigilent and aware about how you treat these kids, rather than to deny and not acknowledge and then since you can't even admit you don't like them you let behavior slide that really should not.

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Fri, 06-16-2006 - 9:01am

Thanks everyone!! I have tried really!!

Love ya!!

GT35

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Registered: 06-04-2003
Fri, 06-16-2006 - 3:29pm

Still hell bound and here's why...

The school administrators have planned a week of carnival like activities for students who are already out of control...

I am not excited. I am upset. They give these kids too many things but require nothing of them....

Here's hoping I hit the lottery so I can quit tomorrow.

GT35




Edited 6/19/2006 4:48 pm ET by greatteacher32
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Fri, 06-16-2006 - 5:53pm

When you win just remeber me, your long lost cousin, with a little gift of gratitude for all the good times and great advice I've given you. ;-)


Sherry

Sherry

 

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Sat, 06-24-2006 - 12:04pm

I think every teacher has students that trigger those feelings. I am a special needs teacher of non verbal kids and I am embarrassed to say that I have even felt this way about "special kids". Usually it is a case where they are so spoiled and pampered by the family die to their disability, and the family has reinforced so many terrible behaviors, that there is no way I can "undo" what has been done.

As another poster said, all that is required is that I am fair to them, which I believe I am. For example, I will still praise and reward a student for anything positive they do, even if I have to really look for something positive. I also act professional and work torwards there goals. What more can you do? Hope you get refreshed during the summer!

Amy