It's only the SECOND DAY OF SCHOOL....

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Registered: 06-04-2003
It's only the SECOND DAY OF SCHOOL....
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Wed, 09-06-2006 - 7:52pm

Was I wrong or unprofessional??

Parent brings her daughter in this morning, she says to me, I know who you are, you were my nephews teacher last year. I said, yes I was. (there was an incident between me and the nephew's mother. She cursed me out because she felt I hurt her child when I did not) So, I said to the mother today, "are you aware of the situation" She said, "yes, what does that have to do with me," I said fine......

She repeated her version of what she heard happened. I said fine, we moved on to reading and homework.....

She then goes to the principal and says (at least this is how the principal told me) That the mother complained that she felt I would have a problem having her child in my class.....

I said, WHAT?? She brought it up first, we discussed it briefly and moved on to another subject. I wasn't aware that I said anything unprofessional and if I did, it wasn't my intent.....

I was simply asking her WAS SHE OKAY WITH THE SITUATION....

Now mind you, this happened at 830 in the morning and my admins didn't bring it up to me until 500. So you waited all day, and now you bring this up to me as I am going home, just straight up spoiled my evening....

Then, the principal is going to look me in my eyes like I am nothing and say, "we aren't going to discuss this with you again" just be careful about what you say and be extra nice to the child and parent.....

So of course, I was fuming so damn bad that I had to go to my room calm down, and breathe before I could leave.....

So, what gets me is, first why did the parent allow her kid to stay in my class if she was still holding a grudge from her nephew's incident. She came to the parent night and saw all the class lists, if you didn't like it, change it.....

Second, why wasn't I called down immediately if this parent had a problem with me and what I said.....

I had what I thought was a pleasant conversation with this mother and she then goes and acts like I had an issue when I didn't....

Third, why the hell you wait All day and then tell me and the turn your nose up at me ans say, "I'm not gonna tell you again"......

Now, I feel like I am under a microscope. I feel like crap because I know I am being watched.....

It seems as if false accusations follow me. This kind of mess happened to me in my student teaching......

I feel like I am a child yelling, "I didn't do it"......

My friend said, well maybe you shouldn't have mentioned the incident. But I only did after she mentioned the child's name, just to make sure SHE WAS OKAY WITH IT, NOT ME.....

Oh my goodness!! I have to keep my resumes out there. I promised my parents I would be there for them, but I am not going to feel scrutinized like this.....

Then, when we have our staff meeting on Fridays, this will be brought up and I will sit there feeling like garbage because I didn't do anything wrong.....

GT35 who has 2 years of grad school left and when I am done, on to the adults. Hey, it may be worse but it won't be where I am now.

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Registered: 03-24-2003
Wed, 09-06-2006 - 10:29pm

Wow, as I said in the other post to you, you've seen the worst so you know what works and what doesn't. Most of what happened today was bad administration.

Sherry

 

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Registered: 06-04-2003
Fri, 09-08-2006 - 8:03pm

Oh but wait, there's more....

So, I saw the mother today and I pulled her aside, "Ma'am was there something I said upset you the other day because that was not my intent" She said, "no"....

I asked her to please keep it between us because I didn't want to get into more trouble but I was so bothered by the situation, I wanted to discuss it with you....

So she said, "I am fine, we are fine, there is no problem. I didn't talk to the principal about you, MY SISTER DID!!

Then I told her what happened, she said, "I never talked to them, I talked to my sister and all I said was that I have no problem with you because of last year, she was the one who brought it up to them...."

So of course I was really pissed, you reprimand me over SECOND HAND INFORMATION!! Even if this is your niece, she's not YOUR CHILD and you didn't hear exactly what I said so how can you complain about something that second hand info in the first place and then you turn your nose up at me, like I did something wrong.....

I was really ready to quit today. Seriously, but then I found out that many of my parents requested that their kids be in my room and thought that was great, most of my kids are on level, which is great, but the pay and the admins SUCK TO BE DAMNED!!!

I know the parent could be lying too, but it would make sense that she's not because of when they brought the issue to me, if I talked to this woman at 8, why did you bring this up at 5?? That's because the sister picks her kids up early and probably went to talk to them at 3....

Plus, the mother and I had a pleasant conversation, I assured her I was fine and everything would be okay, she seemed okay with it and it seemed awful funny that she would complain after telling me it's fine, although she could have who knows.....

Anywhoo, it's over now because the sister pulled her kids out of the school so she won't be there to poison anyone else's mind. Although I will still have to be super nice to the mom and daughter now. No probs, she's a great kid anyway, which makes it easier....

GT35