Looking for your input please.

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Registered: 06-04-2003
Looking for your input please.
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Sat, 06-04-2011 - 7:26pm

A man at work has made more than a few sexual comments towards me. He asked to grab my butt, texted me about how much he loves to masturbate, asked me to get with him and when I said NO, he asked if I had friends who would. He really did this, not making it up. Oh and the sex dream he had about me and when he masturbates he thinks about me.

He's young, 26 and I played it off like it was no big deal, but really I felt very hurt and disrespected by it all. I made myself clear with him on several occassions, saying no you're not what I'm looking for. You're too young and we work together it would never work.

Now the whole scenario really was OUTRAGING me but i didnt express that. I just said hey no problem its fine and I made myself clear on what I wanted was looking for and that's that.

So, I'm posting back and forth on facebook with a male friend of mine who often says that I will never have a man who is faithful and loving because men cheat and I should just get over it. So then I mention the incidents at work (in the post), not thinking much about it. 3 people at work are on my page and one of them 2 WEEKS later told

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Registered: 06-04-2003
Sun, 06-05-2011 - 6:28pm

Yep, and did it mention gay, cause lot of that here. Gay men and women, WHICH IS ABSOLUTELY FINE for them, for me not so much. LOL!!

Oh well, who knew?? LOL!!

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Registered: 12-04-2000
Sun, 06-05-2011 - 3:28pm

I think that you need to avoid him and if he says anything else tell him clearly that you are older and wiser and can see through his line. Let him know that most real women, the kind he'd want to meet his mom, won't be impressed with his line and won't think he's anywhere close enough in maturity, understanding

Sherry
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Registered: 06-04-2003
Sun, 06-05-2011 - 9:00am

I feel responsible in a way because I kept saying, he no problem. Its fine. I kept saying, sorry not interested

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Registered: 12-04-2000
Sat, 06-04-2011 - 10:56pm

Ah, social media!!

Sherry
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Registered: 05-28-2011
Sat, 06-04-2011 - 10:13pm

I'm a bit obnoxious when it comes to this.

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Registered: 04-07-2002
Sat, 06-04-2011 - 8:44pm

Admittedly I don't know a lot about this, but it looks to me like you have enough for a harrassment complaint.