New Job, mixed feelings! Your thoughts?

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Registered: 06-04-2003
New Job, mixed feelings! Your thoughts?
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Sun, 10-21-2012 - 11:38am

So after two and a half years, I have a new job teaching 4th grade. Guess where? Back in Detroit. Yes, I should be happy but in traditional fashion, I have reservations.

One, its urban and I'm kinda tired of dealing with super ill behaved children. Its starting to get very old. Secondly, I really wanted things to work out in DC but I have to go where I can make a decent living.

3rd, I am yet again, going back home to stay with family while I save money to find a place. I dont want to live at home anymore, EVER.

Finally, I'm just tired. Im so tired of this cycle, myself and moving, its all too hard. Not to mention, I  have to leave the loves of my life,  my 4 year olds because my finances are so dire it wont allow me to stay.

Everyone else is saying I should feel blessed and happy and glad I have a family to go home to and that I'll be making more money. I guess so, but all I can see is giving up, consistently what I love and where I'm happiest to do something else.

I will be happy to lead my own classroom again. Oh did I mention this new job only pays once a month, but everyone says I shouldn't be bothered by that cause ITS ONLY ME. As if taking care of yourself is SO DARN EASY. Its really not!!

Your thoughts? Please be honest, I need a new perspective on this. I mean, yes I'm taking the job so I can ONCE AGAIN get back on my feet. But I cant get knocked off my feet again, I fear I'll never be able to get back up again.

Ruth

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Registered: 12-04-2000
Sun, 10-21-2012 - 3:30pm

I think that you are being too hard on yourself, as usual. :-)  In this day and age you don't fail in education. Education fails you.  I think that is true for many many teachers.  Being a success now means you have to be really lucky and play the political games very well. Just caring and trying to do your best often isn't enough anymore.

Moving home to family temporarily doesn't men you have failed. It just means that you are being logical. You could spend your last dime or borrow a deposit on an new apt but why waste what little you have right now?  Save and get what you want, not what you have to settle for.

Don't worry about the monthly pay. I've done that several times including all my time in higher ed. It just means that you learn to budget carefully, resist splurges early in the pay month,and lay out your payments on a logical timeline.

 I love fourth graders and the curriculum at that level. I'm sure you wil be happy being back i the groove and being able to make a difference. How did you find this job? Is it private, charter or public? When do you start?

 

Sherry

Sherry
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Registered: 06-04-2003
Sun, 10-21-2012 - 9:58pm

Hey Sherry,

I guess I'm just tired of starting over so much. I know its not all me, but some of it is and I just cant help but feel like i'm in the way. Yet, everytime I try something new, it doesnt work out.

Anyway, its the school my friends works at in Detroit. His principal needed a 4th grade teacher, he gave me the recommendation. The principal called me, we phone interviewed, I filled out the 33 question application, sent in all my info and he hired me. He said, "I know your friend would not recommend you if he didnt feel you were a great teacher" I said, yes and so is he.

So, I got the conditional offer, emailed all the forms back with it and I'm on the way back. Although, the HR person is trying to pay me at the lowest scale. I said, sir I have a professional cert that you cant get with less than 5 years of documented teacher experience.

But I will have that adjusted once I get there. I just find it odd already that I was hired for my expertise, but you're gonna play me like I'm a novice?? Its fine I'll work it out.

Just getting tired of being undervalued all the time. But hey I guess it doesn't matter if others undervalue me, as long as I DONT UNDERVALUE MYSELF.

Ruth

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Registered: 12-04-2000
Mon, 10-22-2012 - 4:44pm

The undervalued thing is becoming more common. When you changed schools in the past your experience went with you and you were placed accordingly on the scale. Then schools started offering so much credit per year of experience. One year of credit for every five of experience became common. Now many try to ignore all credit because in many areas there are more applicants than jobs and people settle.

You're lucky that your expertise means something. In my district they don't care what expertise you offer if you cost them more. They hire beginners only unless they just can't find anyone for a specific opening. They don't even interview people with experience.

Just feel glad that you have such a great friend who believes in you and is there to support you.  Don't focus on the start over. Everyone starts over several times for different reasons. Some are your choices  and some aren't.  In life you just do what you have to do and keep moving forward.

 

Sherry
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Registered: 07-16-2001
Mon, 10-22-2012 - 10:09pm

Please try not to take this the wrong way, but...what is it that would make you happy? 

I've been reading your posts for a long time, and you never seem to be happy with any situation.  To be honest, you come across as angry to me, and I wonder if maybe it's just because it's a message board and tone can't be carried, or if you're coming across that way in real life as well (even if you're not).  Just a suggestion- you seem to wonder why you can't stay in one place.  It could be that you don't seem happy, so they don't think you want to stay.  Hopefully this new job will be different, and you'll be able to stay there for a long time.  I taught fourth grade for my first two years and I loved that age.  They are old enough to get humor, but not yet too hormonal. 

 

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Tue, 10-23-2012 - 9:49am
Congrats on the new job! I know it's hard to stay positive after all that you've been through but, try to focus on the positives and hope for the best. It's all that you can do. I don't think you should feel bad about moving back home. A lot of people have to do that now and it's only temporary. I hope everything works out. It's definitely your turn.
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Wed, 10-24-2012 - 10:51pm
Maybe I dont do the best job of posting when things are going well, but I do specifically remember saying on my last job in Detroit I was blissfully happy and also saying I love my job but it doesn't pay enough. Yes I'm angry. Tired of things being so hard. What do I want? To not have to choose finance over true contentment. To have both. To get out of my own way and not just survive but thrive. Thanks Shy!! Hope all is well with you.