Perceptions??

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Perceptions??
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Mon, 05-22-2006 - 2:54pm

Need a "colleagues" perspective.....

Have I given you all a negative perception of me?? I know I only post about my problems but...

I was wondering how do you all see me. Be frank as you can, maybe I need to be shocked!!

Next, if you posted on a board, and there were at least 5 members on that board who constantly disagreed with you and always told you "what your problem is," what would be your perception of that situation???

Just wanted some fresh opnions!!

Gt35

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Mon, 05-22-2006 - 3:54pm

I think you're REAL. I think you truly care about what you can bring to your teaching job, what you can bring for the STUDENTS.

So, you may post your problems, but isn't that what this board's for?

Hang in there!

Alysha


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Mon, 05-22-2006 - 4:42pm

Hey, GT, this is a support board, so I expect to hear frustration, venting, stress, and problems. That's the main reason that this board exists.


If I'm correct, you're the only regular that works in an inner-city situation.

Sherry

 

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Mon, 05-22-2006 - 6:44pm

Here's the deal...

I post on the WOC board and I am constantly told that my posts are negative. That I don't post when I am happy and that my perception on that board is my fault...

That maybe true but, I know that I am very supportive of others on that board and was just wondering if I came off the same way here...

I usually only talk about things when something is bothering me and if i am in a good mood I don't always share it...

But then there are these 5 posters or so who obviously can't stand my posts so they make it point of disagreeing and arguing every point/post I make...

After awhile it becomes obvious that these posters do this to antagonize me because they can...

I can't stop them from posting to me but it's got me to the point that I am afraid to post there now mainly because I get sick of these same people racing to "tell me off"...

So that's why I asked. I just wanted to know. Maybe we can all relate more so that's why you all see me differently, I don't know...

GT35

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Mon, 05-22-2006 - 8:11pm

You seem to me to be someone who cares about what she does and the kids she works with. You seem to be frustrated that everyone doesn't feel like you do or hold the students to higher standards. I think you are looking to teach in an environment where that is the case but you don't want to give up on your kids.

I hear you complain, but as others have said, this is a support board. We do a lot of that here and we're here to support each other.

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Tue, 05-23-2006 - 11:02pm

What is the WOC board? Anyway, message boards can have their quirks and opportunities for people to take things too far - perhaps there is some of that going on. Speaking for myself, I always read your posts and enjoy them. "Negative" is not a word I would have ever thought of applying to them. They usually cheer me up, in fact. Especially when you aren't sure how to solve a problem in the classroom, a situation I often find myself in. Knowing I am not the only that happens to is the best medicine in the world sometimes. Here is some food for thought on the matter:

From an article about teachers from college that I still remember well:

"The practicality rule has a corollary; that is, be private. In effect, it is practical to be private. What does being private mean? It means not sharing experiences about teaching, about classes, about students, about perceptions.

'I don't know what it's like in business and industry. It may be the same. I don't know how friendly co-workers are, how honest they are. It just seems that in teaching, teachers really are unwilling to be honest with each other, I think, to confide with each other about professional things and personal things.'

By following the privacy rule, teachers forfeit the opportunity to display their successes; but they also gain. They gain the security of not having to face their failures publically and losing face."

(from "The Social Realities of Teaching"/Ann Lieberman, Lynne Miller)

I love this article, and keep writing/venting!

Pam

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Wed, 05-24-2006 - 8:58pm
I believe it means Women of Color.
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Wed, 05-24-2006 - 10:41pm
Thanks!
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Thu, 05-25-2006 - 10:10pm

I love that!! OMG!! I have recently realized in the last couple of years that I can only share my "teaching stories" with teachers or people who have teachers in the family. Anyone out side of that and I must keep quiet because they will end up being rude to me or saying something so ridiculous, I will wish I hadn't of told them what I do for a living...

Thanks Pam. I am trying to be a better teacher. It gets better every year.

GT35

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Thu, 05-25-2006 - 10:47pm

Oh, I know exactly what you're saying! When you try to talk to someone about teaching who doesn't teach or isn't close to someone who does, either they're going to bad-mouth teachers or education in general, talk to you about their children's problems (which isn't always a bad thing, but when you don't have answers for them, it's quite awkward), or just make comments about what you're saying that can also get awkward (especially when it comes to pay, hours, or holidays/summers).

Alysha