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|Sun, 11-06-2005 - 8:51am|
I have this 7th grader in my class, who is one of the most nervous children I have ever seen. Most of the time, he's OK, but as children sometimes do, he has his little misbehaviors. And he has a huge problem with being corrected or being told "no".
He has a behavior plan and it details a number of steps to take. "Timeout in classroom" is at about #4, whereas "call parent" is at about #8. Any severe issues and the behavior plan goes out the window.
Anyway, I don't know what was in the water on Friday, but my class was bonkers. Most had lost all of their "tickets" that I give daily, and the lunch detention teacher was not on campus that day. SOoooo, I had the majority of my class stay with me for the first half of lunch on Friday.
Well, this little 14 year old 7th grader (who definitely deserved the timeout/detention/ whatever you want to call it) decides that he's not staying and leaves. That is fine. 14 is old enough to make choices - even if they're bad ones. He stood by the door for at least a couple of minutes before he decided to leave, so this wasn't an impulsive action.
One way to get a guaranteed write-up in my room is to leave without permission. I did, and he's suspended on Monday.
Mom is LIVID that I didn't leave my room and call her to let her know that he was going to leave the room, so she could come to school and help him make the right choice. She's appealing the suspension and "calling her lawyer".
Am I being unreasonable to think that a 14 year old with a good head on his shoulders should be able to make the choice and live with the consequences of whether he should stay for detention or not?? I am not going to leave my room to call her every time he needs his nose wiped.
It's going to be a long year.