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|Sun, 09-26-2010 - 2:15pm|
YOUR MATERNAL SWITCH?? What I mean can you give children the "tough love" and "discipline" in your classroom without worrying about how you would feel if it were your child.
So I'm working in a class with 2 other women, the teacher and I are not mothers, the other person is and I notice that the teacher and I aren't "coddlers" but the other woman is.
And it's to the detriment of the children she does this with. They act super spoiled and then run to her because they know they will be babied.
They come to me sometimes but only when they are making positive choices, if they are screwing up, they don't run to me cause well I don't have sympathy for negative behavior regardless of the reasons why.
So I said to her, "you've got to learn to turn off you "mother switch" the button that makes you feel guilty when they cry or think of your own child when they behave in less than a stellar manner and then want to act "very spoiled" when it's time to face a consequence.
Case in point, little girl having a tantrum, the teacher and I would not pick her up, even though that's what she wanted, the other woman, ran over, picked her up cause she couldn't take the crying.
But this child does this alot. A whole lot. So you have to let her just "tantrum" until she comes back to herself and when she does, assist her in following instructions.
The other scenario is a little boy who everyone spoils and coddles and pets, well he's a real spoiled brat and hits and kicks and pushes people for no reason, but runs and hides behind her cause he knows he's wrong and she will pet and hug him even when he's wrong. She does everything for him, and he does not have to be independant so he's not.
Now yes this is a special needs class but they are supposed to be learning some level of independence and she won't allow it because she's too concerned about "how they feel" and "does not want them to feel bad."
I know she means well and is a very helpful person and the children do love her, but she's already creating a "good cop/bad cop" scenario in the classroom.