When do I say something?

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Registered: 03-26-2003
When do I say something?
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Wed, 12-23-2009 - 11:54am

This is actually two questions. I think I've mentioned before that my co-teacher has been less than helpful and has also been sabotaging me. I used to mention her actions to her in the nicest way possible, but I no longer do because she always has a 'good excuse' for her actions and never apologizes. My question? Do I start telling her about her actions but be more blunt about it? Make sure I tell her that she's been hurtful and unhelpful and tell her how others perceive her actions? Because, seriously, I don't think that she 'gets' that her actions have any impact on me. (I think she's got some social issues).

Part 2 of the question is about my boss. I have not told my boss about any of the things my co-teacher has done. I've been documenting her actions on my computer and am on page 5! Every other teacher who has worked with my co-teacher has talked to the boss has left, and the evil one is still here. I don't believe it will get me far. So, do I *ever* talk to my boss? Do I wait until she asks me how it's going? Do I say something before I give my resignation? Or do I just keep my mouth shut and leave quietly?

Thanks!

Feb 09 Siggy

Feb 09 Siggy

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Registered: 03-24-2003
Thu, 12-24-2009 - 5:57pm
I've been thinking abut this one since yesterday when I read your post. I think it's a timing issue and a security issue. If you know you are leaving and have nothing to lose, then I'd let them know you're leaving
Sherry

 

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Registered: 06-04-2003
Sat, 12-26-2009 - 5:17pm

Sherry is correct. But say something when you know it's safe. Don't let the moment pass you by without letting her know in the most professional way that she is not the most helpful person. Good luck with this. I hope it gets resolved soon.

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