19 and a single mom

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Registered: 09-21-2011
19 and a single mom
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Wed, 09-28-2011 - 12:12pm

Hi :) My name is Katherine and I have a year old daughter named Jacie (Jay-cee). Since before she was born you might as well say I have been a single mom. Yes, her father was there when I was pregnant but he didn't do anything for her. Instead of getting a job to save up some money, he sat on his ass. Instead of trying to find a place for us to live, he sat on his ass. I think you get the picture. Anyway, I kept him around because he kept saying he would try to get a job and try to do better. But the relationship was just to the point where we were acquaintances, we weren't "in love" anymore, at least I wasn't. He was physically abusive and verbally abusive. I have permanent back problems and permanent emotional problems because of it. I kicked him out of mine and my daughter's life about 5 months ago and ever since Jacie and I have been happier and healthier than ever. I just wnted to give whoever wanted to read a description of how I became a single mom and how I overcame the abuse. Being a teen mom, I also don't have many friends left because everyone turned their backs on me when they found out I was pregnant. I would love to have someone to talk to besides my family and my mom. I mean it's great and all having her around to talk to but sometimes she just doesn't understand. So, if there are any takers you can message me on here. I wouldn't mind making new friends.

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Sun, 12-04-2011 - 9:24pm

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Mon, 10-17-2011 - 10:01pm

Thats good to hear =] Dexter has

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Mon, 10-17-2011 - 4:44pm
Yes, i think i have figured it out. :) And I love Carsyn. That name is adorable. And things have been getting better for me and Jacie here lately. I have a wonderful man in my life now that treats Jacie like she is his own. He hasn't had any kids of his own yet but he's in love with her. He's gonna be an excellent dad one day. He is 28 soon to be 29 but he is the sweetest man i have ever met.
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Sat, 10-15-2011 - 11:16pm

Welcome to the Board Katherine!

I'm Cheyenne(19), Mommy to Carsyn(3.5 months) and Engaged to Dexter(25)

I also love your little ones name. Sounds like you have figured out whats best for your and your little one and that you two are the most important things now!

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Mon, 10-10-2011 - 4:59pm
Well, i knew i wasn't in love with him anymore when i thought about the idea of not having him around and it didn't bother me. it didn't scare me at all to not have him around because i knew that my life would be better off as would jacie's. when you love someone you want them around and you don't want them to leave. when you can let someone go and not have any regrets then it's best to move on. i rarely ever think about him anymore. that's how i knew i wasn't in love with him anymore. and i also have grown up so much since i became pregnant and had jacie. i'm here to talk if you need to. anytime.
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Mon, 10-10-2011 - 4:54pm
thanks :) and yes i am currently in school now and i am set to graduate late january or early february
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Wed, 10-05-2011 - 12:00am
I'm glad you figured out what was better for you and your little girl and did what you had to do. I'd love to talk. I'm Kimberly, by the way. I'm 18, will be 19 in a month and my little boy, Jesse, is 3 months. Anytime you want to talk, I'd enjoy just as much as you would. I don't have any friends here, my family is two hours away. I'll I have is my boyfriend...And sometimes I don't even have him.
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Registered: 09-23-2011
Mon, 10-03-2011 - 4:42pm

Hey Katherine...I am going to be a 19 year old mom in april, and i am kind of having the same thing as you with the father of your baby. except my boyfriend isnt abusive so i cant relate to that. I was wondering how did you know that you werent "in love" with him anymore. Im afraid that i dont love my boyfriend anymore after almost 2 years...he acts like a kid all of the time...i used to too but im growing up for my baby...i would like to talk to you about your expeirences and all that stuff :smileyhappy:

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Fri, 09-30-2011 - 7:13pm
Welcome to the board, Katherine! I love your daughter's name. I actually know a Jacie (she's 2). Are you still going to school or you working now?