Back to our room he goes.Need advice..m.

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Back to our room he goes.Need advice..m.
Tue, 04-01-2003 - 10:41am
Geez. I knew it was too good to be true. LOL! The 2nd night in his crib, he woke at 1am, and had a HUGE fit. It took me an hour to calm him down. Then, back into our room he went. The 3rd night, I needed sleep so I didn't even try his room. Now he's back in our room, but still napping in his room. Hoping to try again tonight, and keep trying until the little guy will feel ok in his room. Do you all have any suggestions on how to keep him in there? How to make him more comfortable and less afraid when he does wake up? I have one night light in there that isn't very bright. Should I maybe try another one? He has a peaceful planet in his crib, about 5 stuffed animal toys, a play mirror, a musical pull toy, his favorite blankie, and his extra nuks....I'm at a lost at how I could make it any less frightening & more inviting. People suggested my sleeping in his room w/ him, but he would not go for that if he woke up. If I was in his room on the floor, I think he'd freak out even more, wanting me to hurry and pick him up when he saw me. Please help w/ suggestions! ~Tired Amy & Stinker Austin (15 months)
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Tue, 04-01-2003 - 9:08pm
Awww, I wish I had some good advice for you, but as I stated before, Wren won that battle not me LOL.

Maybe if you bought one of those lamps that has the 3 levels of light (like the touch lamps) and keep it on the dimmest setting at night it might help. That way when he wakes up he won't get scared because he can't see. Wren still doesn't like sleeping with the light off.

Just keep putting him in his room for the beginning of the night, and eventually he should get use to it and be able to spend the whole night in there. Hopefully.

((HUGS)) and {{{Austin sleep in your own bed}}} vibes.


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Wed, 04-02-2003 - 9:38pm
Hi, I don't know if it's possible, but maybe put a TV in his room, so there is still lights and sounds. I have had a lot of trouble with my kids so I probably won't be much help, but also you should let him cry for a few minutes, not for very long, but if you rush right in there and pick him up, he knows that all he has to do is cry and you will be there and he will continue to do it. It won't be easy for you to listen to him cry, but give it a try. Or he may never really sleep in his crib, my son didn't really and it just got to the point that it was easier to let him sleep with us, this way we all got sleep. My son now sleeps in his own bed, he just comes into our bed when he wakes up at like 6 to watch TV. So they do outgrow it eventually. Good luck, I know it's not easy!


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Mon, 04-07-2003 - 8:21pm
Hi I am not a teen mom, nor was I one. I am a high school teacher and I was looking a various board topics and came here for a moment to see what some teens had to say. That said, I am a mother of 17 month old twins, with DH who works nights, so I am all too familar with the bed issues. My kids were actually both in their beds for the first time at about 13 month, then at about 15 months Emily started throwing fits, I could not even lie her down at night, but Evan was still doing okay. So I just started sleeping with her. Then about 3 weeks ago he started doing the same. So, they were both sleeping with me. Finally, with my DH home to hold me back we let her cry alone for 25 minutes, she finally went to sleep and slept until about 6am. The next night she cried about 2 minutes. Last night she did not wake up when I layed her down. I did hear her at 9:30, but I let her cry and she slept until 6:30. It is hard. We are going to try with Evan this week-end. I think at this age there is a fine line. They have some night time separation anxiety. I think to a point we need to give into this and comfort them, but yet try to let them gain some independence somehow. So, after all of this chatter. My advice is let baby sleep with you, but maybe every couple of weeks try to let him cry for a little while, maybe you will be lucky like we were with Emily and hit that just right point where it was not too difficult. GL. --Kristi (26) with Evan and Emily 17 months
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Wed, 04-09-2003 - 2:20pm
I have some of the same issues with my 20 month old.

I have some questions, though, before I can give you any advice.

How long has he been sleeping with you?

How bad do you want him in his own bed/room?

How do you feel about letting him cry?

I can tell you a little about my situation. My son, Romel, is 20 months. I was breastfeeding at the beginning, so that's how I got started with him in the bed with me. Since August, it has been just him and me in our little apartment. I tried to get him to sleep in one of those yellow car toddler beds, but he kept falling out all the time. So I put his crib back together, a few months ago, and put it in his cute little bedroom, thinking he'd sleep there. I was so wrong. I don't really believe in letting my son cry for a long time, maybe because he's the type to not fall asleep crying, but rather cry until he throws up and then cry some more. I tried the wait five minutes, go back in the room and comfort him, wait 10 minutes the next time, 15 minutes the next time, but that didn't work. He would be up ALL NIGHT. I think it actually only made him more clingy and made the whole situation worse. So I figured he was scared because he'd always been with me at night, never alone, so I put his crib in my room beside my bed. It worked great, he could hold my hand and I could comfort him but he was in his own bed. I was planning on moving it a little farther and farther away and then eventually moving it into his room, but about the third night of sleeping in his crib, he learned how to climb out of it. He was about 17 months old I think. So that was the end of that, because when I laid him down, eventually, he just climbed out of it and landed on my bed and went to sleep.

I guess if you want him to be in his own bed bad enough and don't mind letting him cry, you could do it, but I would say it's much easier on both of you to just let him sleep where he wants. I'm sure he's not going to be sleeping in your bed when he's 9 or 10, it wouldn't be 'cool'. LOL.

Molly and Romel, 20 months

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Wed, 04-30-2003 - 3:43pm

You son is a toddler, right? Does he like Barney or any characters?

You could letting decide on a night light in the character he likes.

It helped my son when he was that age.

Letting them cry it out is hard, very hard.

This might also help, having some quiet time before bed, like say an hour before bed.

What ever your family does, some suggestions, reading a story, warm bath, letting him put his stuffed animals to bed etc.


It does get better!

Pretty soon, he'll sleep so well, when he gets school age, you won't beable to wake him up in the mornings like my youngest does to me.


mom to Jessica age 19yrs, and zackery 8 yrs.