Former teen mom...

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Registered: 03-26-2003
Former teen mom...
Sat, 08-15-2009 - 7:01pm

Hi. Just popping in out of boredom tonight really. :-) I use to come to this board more frequently several years ago.

I was 17 when I got pregnant with my first son, he was born the month after I turned 18 (and the first week of my senior year). 19 months later, his younger brother was born. I have since had 2 more kids. Right now the kids are 16, 15, 7, and 6. My older two boys dad is not in their life at all and hasn't been in many years.

I do remember one of my pet peeves being a teen mom. The three questions:
1. Are they your kids?
2. How old are you?
3. Do they have the same dad? (This one really got me PO'd)

I will say being a teen mom then being an 'average age' mom I do see that I am treated differently. I felt I got 'worse' treatment from doctors, daycares, and basically a lot of different places. It's like they thought since I was a teen mom I didn't have a voice or didn't know what I was doing. With my younger two, whenever I speak to a teacher, etc, you can bet they listen up. It's a shame it is like that, but is a little thing I notice.

Best of luck to all of you. It's all about making the right decisions for you and you child. I have a great family but I didn't want to rely on them forever. My ex-hubby (the older kids father) didn't work out. I saw it coming for a while. I decided to join the military (married, 2 kids, waiver required) and made a better life for ourself. I am still in the military. Only 5 more years to go to retirement! :-)

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Registered: 02-28-2011
Mon, 02-28-2011 - 1:46pm

I was 15 when I got pregnant with my oldest daughter and received the same treatment through out the years. It seems it doesn't matter how hard you try and what you sacrifice we will always be treated differently. I'm attempting to write a paper for my wr 121 class titled " Do Teen Moms Get Enough Positive Support?" Your input would be greatly appreciated!