Pregnancy blues or something else?
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| Wed, 08-26-2009 - 10:36am |
Hey ya'll. I'm from the Philippines and i'm due on Feb. 4, 2010. I'm only 19 years old. I found out that I was pregnant just recently and I was already four months pregnant. I was sooo scared to tell my parents. I'm a graduating student and would most probably take up law. I am so scared. I am not yet ready. I'm young AND do not know how to raise a child. I have so many fears. I feel like this is more than the pregnancy blues. Anyway, my parents found out about it. I had no choice but to tell them. They were so devastated, angry, sad, disappointed. My mom was inconsolable and my older brother was so sad. After that, me and my mom went to the doctor, we told her that I just found out recently about the pregnancy. Now, I am worried because I took antibiotics because of my chronic sinusitis, flu, cough and at my first trimester, I took medicines and I smoked.I am so worried on what would happen to my baby, Aside from not being prepared and being lonely, I feel like I have jeopardized my baby's development and health. I need a support group, people, I don't know what to do. My family still can't accept it. Even for me, it hasn't sunk in yet. :'(((
PS The father of the baby wants to be part of the baby's life but my dad doesn't want him to be in the picture.
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Hey, im simone
I HOPE YOU DONT FEEL LIKE I WAS BEING HARSH BECAUSE I WASN'T. I WAS 18 WHEN I GOT PREGNANT. IT TOOK SOMEONE TO BE STR8 FORWARD WITH ME TO REALIZE AND ACTUALLY LET DH(BACK THEN BF) THAT I WOULD PACK MY STUFF AND HE COULD KISS ME AND MY BABY GOODBYE. WITHIN THE NEXT WEEK HE GOT HIS ACT TOGETHER. I STAYED HOME WITH KERI FOR 10 MONTHS. JUST BECAUSE YOUR BF'S BROTHER DOESNT SUPPORT HIS BABY DONT MEAN YOUR SITUATION WILL BE THE SAME. NOW MY QUESTION TO YOU IS DO YOU WANT THIS BABY? IF YES, DO YOU WANT BABY TO HAVE THE FATHER ALSO? EITHER WAY MAKE A PLAN. BE HONEST WITH EVERYONE INVOLVED. TELL THEM YOU NEED THEIR SUPPORT. IF NONE OF THEM WANT TO BE IN YOUR CORNER YOU HAVE ONE PERSON WHO WILL BE AND YOU KNOW WHERE TO FIND ME. ANYWAY I'M SORRY IF YOU FELT LIKE I WAS BEING HARSH. I WASN'T TRYING TO BE.
I completely agree, and i dont think you were being to harsh.
Well for me, if my parents doesn't want the FOB to be a part of my baby's life, it's the least I can do for them. I have done nothing but disappoint and sadden them. i don't want to be hardheaded, you know?But at the same time, I really feel low about this. I pity the FOB. I can really see that he's trying reallllllyyy hard to step up.
*SIGH* i don't know what to do anymore.