Pregnant- Help!

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Registered: 08-15-2009
Pregnant- Help!
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Sun, 08-23-2009 - 3:37pm
I got two tests, and two positives. Told the boyfriend, he took it suprisingly well, he said he had a feeling I was. We're still deciding what the best plan of action is for us, in terms of going through with the pregnancy or not. I spent most of yesterday with light cramping, which really scared us until we found out that was somewhat normal,
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Registered: 01-22-2009
Sun, 08-23-2009 - 4:28pm

well if you want to keep the baby, its your decision and im sure theres a bunch of financial help you could use.


are you turning 18 soon? if so i would keep this a secret untill you turn 18 so it would be legal, if not, i dont know.


as far as not keeping the baby, i think adoption is a wonderful gift to ppl who cant have babies, and i mean you could be in the baby's life ifyou ask for an open adoption...


i hope this helps.


 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

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Registered: 08-15-2009
Sun, 08-23-2009 - 5:17pm

Adoption doesn't look to be an option for us. John (boyfriend) said that he couldn't do that, he would rather take the baby and go the single father route if that was what I chose, which honestly I don't think I could even come close to handling.


We're going to go over finances tonight and see if there is any way we could work this out. Looking at it we probably wouldn't be eligible for much financial assistance. Our combined income is decent, we just live in an area where the cost of living is high. And moving isn't an option because he has to help take care of his sister (14) and father (who may have cancer, we just found out) and uncle.


I turn 18 in November, so I would be coming up on 5 months, and I'm already pooching. So it's debatable how well hiding it would go. I'm also planning on heading of to college in a few weeks, and if I keep it, I would want to stay home and save the money, which would be a dead giveaway. So I don't know. I'm really torn as to what to do.

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Registered: 01-22-2009
Sun, 08-23-2009 - 6:51pm

trust me we've all had similar situations and we were alll scared.


i was really afraid to tel my mom and did the stupidest thing; i didnt tell her till she found out when i was 27 weeks along, and i never went to the doctor so yeah, you should really sit down with your mom and tell her you are verry scared but your pregnant... maybe come up with a good plan like a budget and everything before telling her so she can see that youve given it some thought.


you need to get pregancy pills now..


if you ever need to talk you can email me. <3

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

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Registered: 08-17-2009
Mon, 08-24-2009 - 4:09pm
if the age of the father would be a problem then why dont you just not tell them who your child's father is until after your legal because then there would be nothing they could do about it but accept it or GET OVER IT.
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Registered: 01-22-2009
Mon, 08-24-2009 - 5:02pm
i was thinking that but didnt want to say it, but i totally agree, tell them, you cheated or something..

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

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Registered: 08-15-2009
Mon, 08-24-2009 - 5:59pm

That is an option, however I am/was planning on leaving for college in a few weeks and I don't want to use my money on that when it could be spent on the baby/apartment here. So I would have to explain the situation before then, which is still 2 months from my 18th birthday. BTW, parents don't know about John..


Has anyone else been in this situation? Or similar?


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Registered: 10-22-2009
Thu, 10-22-2009 - 2:24am
Hi, I'm Tiffany and I'm a mom and if you need someone to talk to about this u should contact me and we can talk things that you are going through. You can email me at mrstwilliams1@yahoo.com and I'll send you my number.