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Registered: 06-20-2011
Mon, 06-20-2011 - 3:04am

My name is Ashley. I am 20 years old. I used to belong to this board when I was pregnant 3 years ago. I haven't posted in a very long time and I thought it would be a good idea to stop by and offer advice and support to all the teen moms out there. I ended up becoming very upset with some of the posts on here from such young girls. But upset feelings put aside I figured I could help you young girls who WANT and plan your children to see the light....

I love my son to death, but if I had the chance to re-live the last 3 years and not have a child (while being able to give birth to the same little guy years later of course) I would do it in a heartbeat.

I was with his father for 4 years he broke up with me last April. I was very depressed. Having a child put an enormous strain on our relationship. He was my first love and I never really thought it was going to end. Yet it did. I think in the long run it was the absence of our time to continue to grow together and neither one of us are financially stable. In fact we were living with his mom when he broke up with me as my mom had moved 400 miles away. I ended up moving out and in with a friend about 6 months later. Where finances got even worse. Friendships were strung. I had a hard time finding a good guy after that and finally gave up about the time I met my new and current boyfriend.

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Registered: 11-05-2010
In reply to: adp333
Mon, 06-20-2011 - 12:53pm

This is a great, honest post. And even though I'm sure you'll get some backlash for it, I'm really glad you posted it.