17 and pregnant

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Registered: 01-15-2010
17 and pregnant
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Fri, 01-15-2010 - 5:20pm

My name is Jessica & I found out the day after christmas that i was pregnant. I am 17 years old & i'm only 5 weeks along. This is becoming the hardest thing i have ever had to do, and i know that its not going to get any easier.

I left my high school to do virtual school (all my schooling is online) and my days have gone from 8 hours of school, to 2 hours. so i have alot of time by myself at home & its driving me crazy.

I cant drive, i dont have a job anymore, and my boyfriend (and father of my child) doesnt have his own car so when his mom needs the car, she gets it.

What im looking for is a friend, and advice.
When my friends found out that i was pregnant, they stopped talking to me. So the only people i have to talk to are my boyfriend and my family, and my siblings are in school and my parents work. And as ive said before, im 17 so i really dont know what im doing or what im instore for. I would like it if someone around my age who has gone through it or is going through it could help me out and we can compare stories or something.

i hope to make some friends :)

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Registered: 11-05-2009
Fri, 01-15-2010 - 8:01pm

Hey(:


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Registered: 01-12-2010
Fri, 01-15-2010 - 11:35pm
Hi my name is ashley jessica and i was too 17 years old and kinda went through the same thing as u are going threw if u would like to talk feel free to add me princessofdance4@html.com
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Registered: 01-17-2010
Sun, 01-17-2010 - 2:25pm

Hi. Jessica,


My name is Mrs. C.

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Registered: 01-13-2010
Sun, 01-17-2010 - 10:42pm
Sounds like your not having a good look at pregancy. Hi my name is Paige im 17 to and i might be pregnant im not sure yet i havent gotten the money or the time to go buy a test. I would love to chat with you, because i have nothing else to do either. I think your friends are just confused and dont know what to do, and i think you should go back to regalar school, pregancy isnt somthing you shouldnt be a shamed of, and you and your mom should go look for some jobs theres always one waiting for you, the hard thing is that you have to find that one. Some advice please dont do abortion okay, i did, i was 16 and i got one and i think it ruins your life more then having a child, lots of mothers on here tell me its worth having your baby because it just is i guess lol. Have you told your parents yet?? If not i think you should. Well im always here for a chat.
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Registered: 01-15-2010
Mon, 01-18-2010 - 11:54am
Thanks Paige. I didnt leave my highschool because i am ashamed, i left because my high school is drama, there is more drama there than teaching and i already have a high enough stress level and staying there was only going to make it worse. We have been looking for jobs here and there. i even went back to my old job and they always told me if i needed to i could come back; but they told me they werent going to be able to let me come back because i would only be there for less than 9 months but they have been helping me look for other jobs too. and some of them have been paying me to babysit so if it comes down to it that is all i can do, a little cash is better than no cash.
As for abortion, i couldnt do that, im very pro-life. that thought NEVER came across my mind. neither has adoption, this child is mine, and i will raise it. Well it's father and I.
Yes, my mother was in the ER with me when i found that i was pregnant. She was the one that told my dad. so they both know. and so does most if not all of my family. i have the kinda family that if you tell one person, everyone in the family knows.
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Registered: 02-24-2009
Mon, 01-18-2010 - 1:20pm
Hey im Simone (19), been with Curtis (22) over 3 1/2 years & we are proud parents to Jasmine :). Welcome to the board! i know i replied to your other post, but i never really introduced myself lol.
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Registered: 01-13-2010
Tue, 01-19-2010 - 12:02am

Oh i see, yeah school is stressful for me to, i try to skip 1 day of the week just to sleep in and hang out with my boyfriend. Yeah i wasnt trying to sound harsh or anything, alot of people always think i am but im a sweet person. but back to the topic, I think you work should at least let you work that 9 months because they would be helping you out a lot.


For your family, well its good to have them all know so they dont have to be surprised later lol. thats what i would do get all together and just come out with it. But thats me,


Well im not pregnant :(. i kinda wanted to be because i have a strong feeling that i might be ready now im not sure. But i think me and my boyfriend can do it. So how does it feel to be pregnant?


And i hope your friends are supporting you through this to.


I think your a lucky person to be creating a life. :)


sorry that i was all over the place, i ramble about a lot lol.

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Registered: 01-19-2010
Tue, 01-19-2010 - 12:50pm

hey jessica,


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Registered: 11-27-2009
Sat, 01-23-2010 - 1:45pm
hey im ashley and im 17 to. i am currently 15 weeks pregnant and im sorry that your friends stoped talking to you, that just shows you that they wernt your true friends after all. true friends would stick by you no matter what. if you need anyone to talk to you can always email me at ashleybrooke45@hotmail.com
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Registered: 01-28-2010
Thu, 01-28-2010 - 9:57am
Hello, I hope your doing alright. I know my post is a few days after yours but I still feel the need to say something. I am 16 years old and going into my 7th month of pregnancy. I found out on my 16th birthday I was pregnant. Talk bout rough huh? I also am taking classes online but I'm going to have to get my GED soon anyways. It's hard not knowing what to do. Hell, the first few weeks when I found out I got pressured by my boyfriend (&father of the baby) to get rid of it and everyone else was telling me adoption. But I wanted my little nudger. I don't know what I'd be like without it. A lot of my friends stopped talking to me too. I'd love to help you out and be a venting space cause we pregnant girls NEED them. You're only 5 weeks, I'm 27. I am the biggest bitch sometimes! lol But lucky my family and boyfriend understand and deal with me. I would love to help. You can email me or call me or whatever, I'm here :)

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