HELP!!!!!!!

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Registered: 01-25-2010
HELP!!!!!!!
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Sun, 01-31-2010 - 9:46pm
Ok im 16 and i'm about 22 weeks..(exactly 22 tomorrow ) anyways..ok so my psycho stepmother (or ex-stepmother) has this cousin. Her cousin is in her early 40's with 3 kids of her own (15,13,11).
Ever since she found out i was pregnant she's seemed a bit obsessed or i dont know what to call it. But it kind of freaks me out a bit.
She constantly talks about the baby, always buying the baby stuff, and one time i heard a slip through her lips. We were at this store and there were these toys there for kids..a little motorcycle toy for a boy and Disney Princess stuff for a girl (at this time i didn't know what i was having yet.) Anyways so she sees it says it better be a boy. She goes down to my stomach and yells at my stomach saying YOU'RE A BOY i looked at her like as if she was crazy.!!! So then after she said that she said "I want "my" --i mean that baby to have everything." Exactly her words..and she's slipped up like that a few times. And sometimes it gets me to thinking --i dont know if its because im pregnant and all these feelings and emotions come-- but sometimes i think like does she want my baby, will she try to take my baby away from me? And i get kind of afraid. She just seems super obsessed about my baby and she's always telling me how im gonna raise my baby and in my head im like "Lady i aint carrying this baby for you". The way i raise my child is the way i raise my child i dont think she should be putting her 2cents in. And im sure some of you would agree with me. I dont know i feel bad cause she does try to help with the baby stuff but at the same time im like she seems so obsessed about my baby. I dont know what to do. i been trying to ignore her lately. Not picking up phone calls or anything. So im wondering what should i do??????????
I hope i didnt sound mean writing this lol but im just idk concerned i guess you can say.
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Registered: 06-18-2008
Mon, 02-01-2010 - 7:02am

Hey. I havnt "met" you on here yet. Im belle (19) and mummy to 12 month old Kai.

Have you been on the board for long? Are you still with FOB? Do you still live with family or...? You dont have to answer Q's if you dont wana, just curious.

Anyways, first of all i just wanted to let you no that its pretty common to have people put their two cents in. I was pretty lucky with this, it only happend a few times but i know alot of girls that have HUGE problems with it. The easiest way to get around it, just smile and nod and remember that your the one who will be raising your baby so in the end your the one that decides how your baby will be raised. Dont let it get to you to much if they are just saying stuff/telling you stuff. Remember sometimes people

 

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Registered: 01-28-2010
Mon, 02-01-2010 - 11:40am

Hi I'm Krysta (18), fiance to Michael (20), expecting our first October 5th.


The lady seems a little obsessed, but honestly I'm sure alot of the girls on this board would rather have someone that loves their unborn child so much as oppossed to people pushing them for abortion, like many people do. I would say just try not to take it to heart, obviously this lady can't "take away your baby". Let her buy stuff if she wants to, be nice, but make it obvious that this is your baby and you will raise him/her how you see fit, because afterall, you are the baby's mother.

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Registered: 01-25-2010
Mon, 02-01-2010 - 5:15pm
Thanks so much for the advice Belle.
I haven't been on here long. Maybe just about a week lol
No, im not with FOB.
I live with my dad.
If it gets to the point where i think she becomes like totally CRAZY then i'll def. tell her something.
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Registered: 01-25-2010
Mon, 02-01-2010 - 5:23pm

Thanks for the advice Krysta.
Awww an October baby-im an October baby hehe.
You're most def. right about having someone loving my unborn child then pushing for abortion (which thankfully no one pushed me for that), but at times lol this lady is just obsessed.
Dont get me wrong i am very thankful she's happy for the baby and she's buying the baby stuff but she can go off sometimes.

Good Luck with the Pregnancy.
Wait til you feel he/she kick i have fun playing with my little girl in there lol.

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