Hey hon! I'm not exactly in your situation, but I can give you the run down of mine. We have similarities in life stories. :)
At 1 month before my 16th bday, I started sleeping/dating one of my friends older brothers. Low & behold, a month later, I was pregnant, thanks to a lack of BC. Olivia is my oldest, now 8. I had her when I was 16. Her dad has never really been in the picture, and I like it that way. He's a piece of trash.
When I was 18, I began dating a man I thought I loved. Well, throw in some antibiotics and painkillers for a severe kidney infection with the pill for a month, and in comes baby 2. Her dad beat the crap out of me, emotionally abused & scarred me, and (I swear on a Bible) was arrested for soliciting an undercover prostitute when I was in labor with Emily. She's now 6.
My third daughters father was the man of my dreams, or so I thought. We met when I was 19, moved in together and fell in love in about a month. We were together about a year before we planned our daughter, Alyssa. (She was born at 3am, the day after my 21st bday!) Well, she was about 18 months old & he decided alcohol, meth, and other women were funner than his family. Mind you, we owned a house together at this point, also. Wonderful.
I kinda went a little crazy when we split up. I wound up pregnant with Savannah when I was 23. She will be two in March. Her dad is great. We were never really together, and he didn't want anything to do with us until the courts ran a paternity test & forced him to start at least paying support.
Anyways. I did end up graduating on time, no thanks to the help of my parents. I moved out when Olivia was 2 months old, and got on state assistance for daycare. I was living with friends until I was 18 and could sign a lease. It's been a hard road. Its not fun swallowing pride & going to the state agency for food, medical, and cash assistance. Its been hard getting a good job without a college degree. I feel like a terrible mom for not being able to give the girls more than the basic needs. But, they know they are loved. They know they are the most important thing in my life. And, they respect me for working as hard as I can, and taking care of them in anyway I can. I personally believe that will make them better adults.
Oh, and they all know that as soon as they get their periods, they will be lined up each month for the depo shot. No questions about it. :)
Email me if you ever want to talk. I definitely know what its like to be a young, single mom of more than one child, more than one father, and the dirty looks you get from strangers. Been there, done that, told them off. :D
Yea. i just found out today that im having a baby girl. Her name is Addison Marie Joy. We( My mom and her aunt and i) just found out that she is has heart problems. Today cant get anyworse than getting told your baby girl has heart issues. She has a narrow aorta which gets the blood to the heart soo her left chamber is enlarged due to all the extra pumping. Im soooooo scared. Oh the dad has heart problems too she it was a 50 50 chance. And My oldest is 3 almost 4 and he has no clue whats going on of course and my mom now wont let me say anything about addsion anymore b/c we dont know exactly whats going on. Im gunna love both my babies no matter what even though they both dont have daddys.
Hey Katie im Leonor 20 i have two little boys named Diogo and Gonçalo aged
Thanks i just found out yesterday that im having a little girl. She has heart problems but she will be ok i hope her daddy has something like this too. She already is like him. But he is starting to talk to me now soo we will see what happens from there.