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hi. i'm new. =)
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Fri, 08-08-2008 - 12:05pm
hi. so wow, i'm really glad to have found this. it's nice to find people my age going through the same thing i am.
first off my name is Leigh Anne and i'm 17. I just hit 34 weeks. I'm going to have a little girl and her name's Leilani. She is due sept. 18. i come from a christian home and it's been hard on my family, mainly my dad. my parents have forced me and my boyfriend Gabe to break up which makes things even harder because Gabe is pretty much my best friend. I feel like a prisoner in my own home. i'm not allowed to walk out my own front door because we haven't told our church yet and my parents don't want a chance of anyone seeing me. i just need people to talk to who are going through it too and can maybe help with advice on how to handle things...=)
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Fri, 08-08-2008 - 12:33pm
hi im ashley and im 17 too. welcome to the board you have definitely come to thr right place the girls here are amazing. i have 1 year old daughter named chloe grace
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Fri, 08-08-2008 - 3:29pm

Nice to meet you, I'm Callie. I'm 14, 15 on the 26th, and I miscarried in January. My bf is Abry.

Welcome to the board, you definitely came to the right place!

I'm so sorry about your situation. Your family sounds tough to live with. I know what you mean by him being your best friend, that's what Abry is to me. I can't even imagine my dad saying that. Does your family want you to give the baby up for a adoption? What is your opinion on all of this.

PS: Any questions you feel are too personal, do not in any way feel pressured to answer! :)




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Mon, 08-11-2008 - 11:51am

thanx a lot for your concern.

actually the past few days have gotten better. my family is being really supportive and my dad finally told our church and they're really supportive too. We have decided to keep the baby and Gabe is going to get time with her too. my parents are doing better. they're starting to get excited. buying things like "my grandma loves me". it's still hard not being with gabe. our parents decided that we could get married but we have to wait 5 years till we both finish high school and have done some college. things are getting better but still confusing so i'll just have to wait and see what happens. i am excited though, i've got just about 6 weeks left and i'm excited it's a girl.

i'm sorry to hear what happened. I've had many friends and family go through the same thing. It's hard because our bodies are still so young. i was having problems of my own. i went for simple testing the other day and i ended up going to the triage cuz they thought i might go into labor soon. it's very early i'm not sure if she's even 5 pounds yet. luckily everything is ok and she won't be born till around her due date.

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Tue, 08-12-2008 - 1:38am

Awh I'm so glad to hear your family is starting to come around, it must make things a lot easier. I still feel bad about Gabe, I'm sure in time that little girl of yours will melt their hearts and they'll feel like terrible people if they don't let her see her daddy who's dying to see her. Waiting 5 years sounds like a very good plan, I just wish you could see more of each other in between. The two of you are so young, waiting will definitely increase the chances of having a lasting marriage.

I really want a girl when I'm older. Have you picked out a name yet? And yes, my body is very young, and very damaged. I've had an eating disorder since second grade on and off, and I'm sure that hasn't helped much. I feel guilty in that sense. Hopefully one day I will be in the position where I can financially support a child, and have a loving family waiting for him or her.




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Tue, 08-12-2008 - 11:56am
yeah. we've decided her name to be Leilani Gabriella
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Tue, 08-12-2008 - 2:22pm

Awh the name is beautiful!

How are you feeling with the pregnancy so far? Have your parents let you see your bf at all yet?




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Tue, 08-12-2008 - 4:06pm
i don't know. Like it's so up and down. one minute things are good and you think you have them under control and the next you feel like you're about to fall apart. Like we were deciding on her last name and everyone had their own opinion but they keep putting it on me to make the final choice. I decided to hyphenate her name so she could have both names ,but no one's happy with it. it's just so confusing and it hurts not getting to be wit him. I got to see him last night, it was me and my mom and him and his mom. It was ok, i mean all we really id was decide on her middle name and just talked like mostly surface stuff. Like my mom decided to like rub it in my face that i can't be with him even more saying all these things like well if we let you be together all this is going to happen again. it's just like ok i made a mistake is it really that hard to forgive me or believe that i have changed and i'm not like that to put myself through this situation again. I don't know it's just crazy and like everything keeps switching. first it was like my mom was the nice one and my dad had like a crappy attitude, now it's totally opposite. Like he came home yesterday with a new like flat screen tv and was like here this is for your room. i was like what the heck? it's bizarre how things are going but hopefully with time things will fall into place.
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Wed, 08-13-2008 - 3:02am
I like the idea of having both names, I would say it's a good choice. I'm really sorry about your mom. I think she'll come around in time though. She can't stay evil forever, right? And At least your dad is on your side. Are you allowed to call your bf?