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Tue, 08-05-2008 - 12:53pm
okay well my name's ashley. i'm sixteen and about to be a senior in high school, and i'm maybe about four or five weeks pregnant. i just found out about four days ago (two positive clear blue pregnancy tests)and i haven't told my mom yet. i could use some help on telling my mom me and her don't have the best relationship it has just started to get a little better but i'm scared i'm going to lose all her trust again. i've decided to keep the baby and i know she will probably want me to get an abortion. she might even tell me if i don't get one she'll kick me out. but i don't care i just can't do that my bf told me that i could always stay with him and his mom but i'm just scared on how to break it to her. i am really scared but i want to take full responsibilty for my actions and be the best mom i can be.

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Registered: 06-12-2005
Tue, 08-05-2008 - 1:35pm

Welcome, and congrats on your pregnancy! Before I told my parents I was pregnant, I sat down and figured out all the help I could get...i.e. Medicaid, WIC, Food Stamps, how I was going to finish school, how I was going to financially pay for everything. I think that would be a really good idea for you to do also. Just really go over ALL your options. That way when you tell her, you can be prepared for any questions she may have to ask (like my mom did :o). I don't think I told my parents until I was about 11 weeks along (I still took myself to the DR tho for my first check up), but that gave me plenty of time to figure things out FOR MYSELF and BY MYSELF.


Again congrats. Everyone on here is wonderful and you picked a great place to come to for support!


I'm Haely, 21 YO, with a beautiful 18 MO baby girl named Taegan (Megan with a "T") and am a single momma.

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Registered: 06-09-2008
Tue, 08-05-2008 - 1:42pm
Congratulations on your pregnancy. Good luck and if you ever need someone to talk to then you can always personal message me.
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Tue, 08-05-2008 - 1:46pm

thanks for your help i'm going to look up all those things right now. i'm not sure though if i can go to the doctor without my mom with me being sixteen and all. so if i can't is it best to tell her asap, or should i still wait a couple of weeks? i know i need to get prenatal vitamins and all and i have alot of questions to ask a doctore but i guess i could wait,

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Tue, 08-05-2008 - 2:05pm

Honestly, if you start taking your pre-natals now, I think you'd be o-k to wait a couple more weeks. My doctor (and I know MANY other doctors) don't even see their patients until they are about 8-12 weeks pregnant. I didn't go to my first appt until I was 9 weeks, which is routine at my OB's. I would definitely start on the prenatals though! Good luck!


I was thinking, maybe you could even call your DR to set up an appt, and

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Registered: 06-03-2008
Tue, 08-05-2008 - 7:14pm
Hi ashley!
Welcome to the boards!
Congratulations.
My name is Ashley lol. I'm 17. Going to be a senior also. I'm due November 30th. I'm 23 weeks pregnant.
As far as telling your mom goes do whatever is easiest for you. If you think telling her in person will be better do that. But if you are really scared text, e-mail, or write her a note. I texted my mom when I was at school she made me come home and take another test because she didn't believe me.
I hope she'll be supportive of you!
Does both your bf and his mom know?

 

 

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Registered: 08-05-2008
Wed, 08-06-2008 - 12:10pm

thanks so much, yeah i actually told her today in person. i knew she wasn't going to be supportive she said i was too young and i didn't even have my high school education finished. yeah my bf knows and he had already told his whole family before i told my mom. my mom also said i couldn't live in our house with a baby. so if she doesn't change her mind i will most likely be living with my bf and his mom. i was wondering if instead of medicaid if i could be under their insurance? for the baby of course.




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Registered: 06-03-2008
Wed, 08-06-2008 - 4:04pm

Aw I'm sorry. Well maybe she will get used to it. Some times parents freak out for a while and then come to their senses. But if she doesn't at least you have a back up plan.


Um yeah I believe you could be. I'm not too sure on that. But Medicade will cover your child also. I have it and it will definatly cover my son.

 

 

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Registered: 05-21-2008
Wed, 08-06-2008 - 11:10pm

Hi Ashley:) Im Zenycha(17) mommy to Jayden(1) and SO/FOB is Berto(19). I had my son when I was 15, i got kicked out of my house so I had to move in with my boyfiend wich was so hard because i needed my mom, i needed her support, When u tell your mom just tell her that you want to keep the baby and that you know you made a HUGE mistake but that you need her and her support. Now i have my own place with my boyfriend and our son but trust me when I say its not easy. Your are so right for saying that you need to take full responsibility for your actions. I know that you can be a really good mom and I wish the best for u and your baby:) GL on telling your mom but I think u should tell her soon so like that u can go to the hospital.


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Registered: 07-02-2008
Fri, 08-08-2008 - 8:32am

ashley,


hi im kayla! im also 16 (almost a senior too) and i have a six week old son named alex... i know how you feel... right after i started gaining my moms trust again i ended up getting pregnant and i didnt know how to tell her... she was sooooo disappointed in me because she thought we were going forward... but it WILL get better...you just need to tell her... dont beat around the bush about it... just plain out say it... it works best... im happy to hear that you want to keep your baby its the most amazing choice you will ever make i promise you that... well if you ever need to talk feel free to email me at darochakayla@yahoo.com


Kayla


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Registered: 06-09-2008
Sat, 08-09-2008 - 1:32am
When is alex's birthday? My dd will be 6 weeks tomorrow.
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