Im 14 and 3months prego. Needs advice.

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Registered: 09-28-2011
Im 14 and 3months prego. Needs advice.
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Wed, 09-28-2011 - 10:27pm

Hi my names Elena im 14 and 3months along now. I was placed with my sister by SRS 7 months ago and still in foster care. My mom and sister are supportive. My case worker (Leah) herd that I was prego by my grandparents and is saying that if its true, i am going back into foster care, and my baby will be taken away. I only need to hide it for a month then im out of foster care! Any ways to keep it hidden? My Boyfriend is 16 and is with me through everything but his parents are abusive twards him and he is scared to tell them. I feel like everything is going horrible wrong! I want to keep my baby and already love my baby very much! HELP!

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Registered: 09-28-2011
Wed, 10-05-2011 - 4:45pm
Thanks for the advice!
And Thank you so much Kim! It's great to have someone here for me and to talk to!
Thats what I really need the most at the momment None of my friends know what im going through cause there all so young too you know?
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Registered: 10-04-2011
Tue, 10-04-2011 - 11:51pm

I'm sorry about your situation and I think its really horrible that they would take your child away. I'm here to talk to if you ever need it. Hopefully you can hide it from them. I'm rooting for you. Keep me updated and remember you can talk to me. I wasn't in your situation, I had my own, and I had no one to talk to, and I know how hard and stressful that can be.

Kim(:

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Registered: 09-23-2011
Mon, 10-03-2011 - 4:45pm

That all sounds terrible...im 18 and im also 3 months pregnant. and if someone was threatening taking my baby away i would freak out. I dont know what your going through but some good ways to hide it are: if your showing already then wear some bigger shirts or ask to borrow one of your boyfriends sweatshirts...thats wat i would do...i know that we dont know eachother but im always here to talk :smileyhappy:

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Registered: 09-28-2011
Thu, 09-29-2011 - 3:04pm
Thanks Jen! I think i will talk to my boyfriend about that later today. My boyfriend and the counselor are vary close! She even helpd his older sister get WIC when she was prego. So that would be good. The thing is, there mexican and just moved here from mexico 4 years ago and his parents dont know english! and i dont know spanish! I want to be there with him when he tells his parents but ill have no idea whats going on! And Baggy clothes is a good idea, but what should I do if they give me a test? can i just dip it on the toilet? will the first line show up or does it have to be urine?
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Thu, 09-29-2011 - 1:09pm
Hi, Elena. Are you going to school? I would suggest speaking with your guidance counselor. If your boyfriend goes to the same school, you could meet with the guidance counselor together. Maybe the guidance counselor could help the two of you figure out the best way to tell his parents and help you find some local resources.

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Registered: 09-28-2011
Thu, 09-29-2011 - 1:36am
No ones baby should be taken away:( um just were a little baggier clothes or sweat shirts(: but by five months you could get huge.. it will be colder so sweat shirts would work.