New here! 17 and 24 weeks prego!

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New here! 17 and 24 weeks prego!
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Tue, 09-02-2008 - 2:53pm

Hello, my name is Bethany Hanna. I'm engaged to a wonderful man, and me and him are already starting our family. I am 17 years old and 24 weeks pregnant. I am very christian, but don't attend church very much. Clayton is due Christmas day. All I want for Christmas is an epidural! >.<; Hah, just kidding. It was an unplanned pregnancy, but I would not call it a mistake at all, it is a surprise from God, that is how I see it. I am honestly very frightened because there is a lot that I am not used to happening to me. I'm not quite used to an expanding belly, or stretch marks. I've been told that I look like one those pregnant women who glow. I was told this after a bout of morning sickness. I must say, I have become increasingly hungry, because I was one of those girls who didn't eat that much, I used to eat to survive, now I eat because it's there. I love humor and excitement, and I don't take life too seriously, (although i do take health seriously). I have raging spells of depression, which only seems to happen at night. While I do not enjoy the stretch marks that I have spent years vigorously getting rid of coming back 10 times worse, I welcome them with open arms for the life that is growing inside me.


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Registered: 08-14-2008
Tue, 09-02-2008 - 3:57pm
HI BETHANY WELCOME TO THE BOARD AND CONGRATS ON YOU PREG. I SUGGEST YOU BY A PLANNER FOR YOUR DOCTORS APPOINTMENTS SINCE YOU DONT WANT TO MISS ANY OF THOSE. AND AS FAR AS LEARNING HOW TO TAKE CARE OF BABYS WHEN I WAS PREG. I WAS SO WORRIED ABOUT WHAT I WAS GOING TO EAT NEXT THAT BY THE TIME THEY ROLLED MY SON INTO THE HOSPITAL ROOM AND TOLD ME TO CHANGE HIS DIAPER I REALIZED I DIDANT KNOW HOW TO!! YOU SHOULD LOOK INTO BIRTHING AND PARENTING CLASSES FOR FIRST TIME PARENTS I TOOK A BIRTHING PREP. CLASS AND MY LABOR WENT MUCH BETTER BUT IF YOU HAVE ANY QUESTIONS ABOUT BABYS JUST ASK I HAVE AN 11 MONTH OLD SO I SHOULD BE ABLE TO ANSWER ANYTHING
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Registered: 07-28-2008
Tue, 09-02-2008 - 5:23pm

Hey and welcome to the board! I'm Tarynn(17), engaged to Josh(20), and our baby girl, Kaelyn, is due January 5th. So I'm only about a week and a half behind you. I'm guessing by the name that you're having a boy? very exciting! Congrats. Do you live with your fiancee? Do his/your parents know about the baby? If so, how did they take it? Anyways, congrats on your pregnancy, I hope you stick around [:

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Tue, 09-02-2008 - 8:30pm
Yup! Clayton Leon Deslattes, and i'll be Mrs. Deslattes once Clayton is born, and I feel that i'll look good in a wedding dress, lol. Me and my fiance currently live with my dad. We're definately working on living arrangements, looking for a decent sized house, and i'm working on my education so that I can help out, because this house is SMALL! Yes, our parents do know. My mother was the last one we told because I was seriously afraid she would flip out on me, she seems to be bi-polar/depressed/have anger management problems, but I must say, my mother took it very well, and she is very supportive. Andrews (fiance) parents were ecstatic. They are very excited, and very helpful.
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Registered: 07-28-2008
Wed, 09-03-2008 - 12:40am

Well that's exciting. Congrats, again. Are you and DF looking for a place of your own? Or are you going to stay with your dad and just upsize the house?

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Wed, 09-03-2008 - 10:05am

We're looking for our own place. We probably won't get one until Claytons born, and I get a job, though, that way I can help out.

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Wed, 09-03-2008 - 12:36pm

Oh, I see. What does DF do?

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Wed, 09-03-2008 - 2:21pm

He's a mechanic, he works for his dad, and he gets 50% comission. The most i've ever seen him make in a week was $984 dollars, and the least i've ever seen him make in a week was $250. I'm going to get a degree in nursing, and i'll be getting my salary from that once I get a GOOD job, but until then, it'll be easy things that pay good with few hours so I can spend time with my baby while he's first growing up.


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Wed, 09-03-2008 - 5:20pm

Sounds like a good starting point, commission is tricky to work with, but since you two are living with your dad that's a good way to start saving. Sounds like you guys have a great plan [: Thankfully for me, DF is 3 years older than me and already has a degree and is done with schooling. He does web/graphic design and gets salary as well as full medical benefits, paid holidays, vacation time, etc. So we have our own place (2 bdrm apartment) for the time being. The lease is up in March, so we're thinking of buying a home of our own once the lease is up. It'll all just depend on how much we can save up in the next 6 months, though, so we'll see. I'm doing the part-time thing for now, just working as a hostess at Applebee's, but I'm going to quit when Kaelyn is born and take online classes to get my teaching credentials. I figure that'll be a perfect job because I'll be teaching when she's in school and I'll be out when she is too.

I know ALL about the whole step-parent playing favorites. My step dad has been my step dad since I was 2, and yet he still treats my brother and I SOOO differently than he treats his daughters (my 1/2 sisters). Actually, he's the reason DF and I are already living together. My mom just passed away, and she was my only saving grace with him, so a week after her death I moved in to DF's apartment. I definitely agree that your dad's place is your best option, you don't want your son exposed to that kind of treatment.

I don't know if you've looked into it at all, but since you and Andrew aren't yet married, you could qualify for free health benefits through medicaid and you could get a lot of free food from WIC and other programs like it. Josh and I don't really NEED it persay, but it definitely helps, so even though we have the money, I'm getting all of that just so we can save that much more. For that reason alone I don't think we'll get married for at least a year or two more. If you haven't already, you should look into it. There are TONS of programs for pregnant teens, and they'll all go based off of YOUR income, and since you have none right now, I'm sure you could qualify. You can even get monthly checks for housing, food, and various other bills. Something like that might allow you to move out sooner.

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Wed, 09-10-2008 - 8:56pm
welcome and congrats! well...diaper changes dont come so naturally lol! its kinda a technique thing but other things like breastfeeding do come naturally...somewhat! good luck!
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Registered: 08-24-2008
Wed, 09-10-2008 - 10:27pm
Congrats! I'm Hannah Hi. I'm not really sure how many weeks pregnant I am yet but I'm not very far along.

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