new . i want a baby in my life<3

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Registered: 05-19-2011
new . i want a baby in my life<3
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Thu, 05-19-2011 - 3:01pm

Im 15 years old , and i want a baby . i know im young but im ready for one. im not like those party girls that go out everyweekend i stay home and watch movies with my boyfriend or something like that . me and my boyfriend been talking about it and we are trying weve been through alot so i think we can do this together i am planning to stay and school and everything(: i just want a baby so bad we have been trying i think i am right now but im not sure ive been having symtoms ,but ima take a pregancy test next month cause i dont wannna get dissapointed :(

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Registered: 05-15-2009
Fri, 05-20-2011 - 4:46pm
Welcome to the board! How long have you and your boyfriend been together?

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Registered: 04-12-2011
Sat, 05-21-2011 - 3:36pm
I was 15 when I got pregnant. I'm still with him and our son is 2.5 and we have number to on the way (#2 was on purpose) But it was really hard and I had to drop out of school and now I have to get a GED. A baby changes your relationship too, keep that in mind. Chances are you won't stay together, but that's not saying you won't, me and my bf did and now we're engaged.
How are you going to support your little one?
Please keep in mind that once you have the baby everything, all your plans, everything will change! Your baby will get sick and so will you so your going to miss TONS of school, thats why I had to drop. You have to be in school for a certain number of days, its not all about your grade.
I hope you really thought this trough! Good luck Hun.
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Registered: 05-28-2011
Sat, 05-28-2011 - 8:32pm

I dont personally think young girls should try to get pregnant and have babies just because not only is it risky to your health but to your baby as well... im 18 and expecting my little boy in 2-3 weeks and im very excited but im also extremely scared and at ur age u dont have a job and u probably havent graduated high school either. If i were you i would at least wait till you get a high school diploma under your belt it will help make yours and a new babies life easier

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Registered: 07-14-2011
Thu, 07-14-2011 - 11:59am

Hi there. Only you can decide when and what is right for you. Firstly, I'm sure you know it won't just be a cute little baby for you to name and cuddle. It will be a living, growing, human being that will need far, far more than that from you.

I have been there and know a lot of the struggles and obtacles you'll be facing. I wasn't a party girl either. My best advice is to sit down and write out a plan for what all you intend to do to see to it that this child you plan to have's needs are all met. Like who will care for him/her while you're in school/at work, where will you all live, who will pay the bills, who will pay the medical expenses, who will do the driving, etc. It can also be a big help to borrow a baby for a day or two. If you have a relative or family friend or someone from church or something that may be willing to let you babysit for a weekend, for a small child or infant, you may find yourself feeling fullfilled enough with just a couple of days of looking after a baby, and decide it might not be right for you just now. Or you might decide hey, this is great, let's go for it. Either way, it can't hurt to be prepared and know for sure what you're getting into.

I wish someone had sat me down and helped me to plan things out better and given me questions to ask myself, which is why I have written all this out. When I became pregnant, I really didn't think it would be a big deal other than having to tell my family. I didn't foresee the struggles. I don't regret my child at all! Don't get me wrong. But I do wish I had waited a few years to have her, so that I could have given her a better start in life than I have so far. Just something to think about. Good luck to you and your boyfriend, regardless of what you decide to do.

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Registered: 07-16-2011
Sat, 07-16-2011 - 11:25am

well i was 13 when i got pregnant with my twins, i know i am younger than you but i am not 14, i was in 8th grade now going to be a freshmen, i had been with my boyfriend for 3 months before i got pregnant. it was really hard. and it still is. my friends stopped coming to see me. and it was hard to finish the 8th grade being so tired. just like it will be hard for you when you are going to school on a small amount of sleep. I cant go out when i want to. I have to find a babysitter. i go out with friends maybe once every 2 or 3 months. just think if you are ready to give up your life as a teenager before you make any decisions.

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Registered: 09-28-2011
Wed, 09-28-2011 - 2:20am
i've actually have been talking to my boyfriend about having a baby since I was 15 and I got pregnant when i was 16 I am now 17 and have a beautiful 4 month old son named austyn and I think if you really want to do it go for it its your own decision and with school it is hard to do school but me and my fiance are going to school online and working and its not really as hard but make sure you have at least enough money for your baby:) and if you want you can email me and talk to me at stefaniehay@hotmail.com or you can text me after you email me its always nice to talk to ppl who are going through the same thing. I lost a lot of my friends when I had my son and for the ppl who say you won't be able to do anything and your teen years are gone my son loves hanging out with me and some family! And for movies and bowling and that sort of stuff we bring him with us(: or take turns watching him if one of us want to go out... and if you are trying don't thats the best way to concieve(: Stress on trying to have a baby doesn't help at all(: