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Thu, 08-14-2008 - 1:46am

hello
I think i know how you feel. I have problems with my ex all the time, as well as extreme paranoia that he's going to be able to take my baby from me. I can't stand the thought of someone like him having an influence on my baby. I don't know what kind of situation your ex is in but i know mines is less then desirable, he's pretty close to being homeless, i'm pretty sure he's bi-polar and has a drinking problem :/

I can't exactly talk to my friends about either because they can't understand how possessive you can start to feel about your little baby, know what i mean?

I can just tell you what people tell me, try not to let yourself get too stressed about it because its not good for you and baby, i know its easier said then done haha
but if you ever want anyone to talk or vent to, you can talk to me :)

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Thu, 08-14-2008 - 2:04am

yea earlier on in my pregnancy he was yelling @ me he didnt want anything to do w/ this one minute & then the next minute he was threatening to take me to court for custody. i still worry about that becuz his fam has a lot of money & im assuming some pretty damn good lawyers to go w/ it. i cant imagine losing her after all ive been thru w/ this pregnancy.


& hearing what u say about ur ex's situation, im pretty sure if he tries to get custody the court will see tht he is obviously not fit to be a parent yet. are u guys keeping in contact so far??

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Thu, 08-14-2008 - 2:31am

yeah i'm trying my best to remain friends with him for the sake of the baby but he doesn't make that very easy, we argue almost every time we talk about her.

I'm pretty sure, from what i hear, that even if he does take you to court the judges won't take newborns away from their mothers, especially if you're planning on breastfeeding, unless they can prove that you're not a fit mother for some reason.

Are you still living with your parents?

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Thu, 08-14-2008 - 1:12pm

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Thu, 08-14-2008 - 5:33pm

yea im temporarily stuck in my parents house along w/ my 16 yo brother & my gma. my bro is EXTREMELY judgemental about this & he's practically

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Thu, 08-14-2008 - 6:00pm

i don't think its anymore immature then he's being haha

It's so hard to keep being civil with someone you have a history like that with. My little brother is also pretty much in love with my ex haha i don't know why that is but i can't exactly go into detail about why he shouldn't think so highly of him. I live with my parents too, along with my 18 year old brother and a 14 year old brother...good times haha it would have been next to impossible to keep living on my own and save money for the baby so here i am

As far as the whole ex situation goes though i would try to keep being the bigger person and try your best to get along with him, try not to let him know that anything he says bothers you, ya know?

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Thu, 08-14-2008 - 6:32pm

ya thts probly what i should do, but @ the same time, i dnt really want him 2 keep saying stuf like tht thts gona upset me. i really jus wana b 100% honest w/ him. i try 2 b as calm as i can b when i tell him what hes sayin hurts my feelings or pisses me off, but i think i come off a lil psycho sometimes. im ultrasensitive wen it comes 2 my heart, & especially my baby & unfortunately, hes a big part of both.


wat do u thinks gona happen b/t u n ur ex? or wat do u want 2 happen??

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Thu, 08-14-2008 - 8:26pm
i know what you mean my daughters father is a retard..... he didnt even see me until i was 9 months pregnant and now he wants to see her and wants her to live with him........ha no hes crazy....he stopped paying..i wish i didnt have to deal with him or even let him see her but i have to kinda =/ itll work out though
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Thu, 08-14-2008 - 9:08pm

yep mine just stopped by on his way to mammoth 4 a vacay, but he let me kno how inconvenient it was 4 him 2 come n e ways. i was about 6 months & now i highly doubt ill c him til im in the hospital or prolly even after i come home. i hope later on he realizes tht this is his DAUGHTER & he feels like a jackass. ya i REALLY dnt wana deal w/ him either, but it is wat it is..


how old is ur daughter now??

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Thu, 08-14-2008 - 9:15pm

my daughter is a month and a half she will be two months on the 30th =]


and idk my daughters dad he wouldnt even feel my stomach when he saw me for the only time she was kicking and he didnt care


hes dumb lol

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